im back

[shyguy1080]

Hey everyone im back. Its link aka shyguy. Something went wrong with my account so i had to make a new one. Anyway, wow alot to respond too,lol

RockRose- No i dont go after super model women.. I know they are totally out of my league. I been rejected alot by average women. Why cant i not go after a women who i find somewhat attracted too?

Mami- I talked to my friend today, who gives great advice on dating and he said something interesting, almost the same as you.. He said if u were to put a good looking guy infrot of alot of women to judge, the ladies would have mixed answers on if he's good looking or not, while viceversa if a good looking female was there, it be alot different. I guess its true.. Women are not as visual as men are. And, im starting to be convinced that it really is all how a guy acts.. Im starting to feel good about approaching a woman. Im tired of this shy, scared feeling.. I have learned a lesson with the last girl, dont joke around with someone you dont know,lol. Everyone here has been awsome.. I love this forum.. I guess there still is hope for me :)

[RockRose]

Yes,  I'm sure.

I could go on and on about Catcher in the Rye and Dr. House and your expectations,  but you don't read or heed what I say.

You hold yourself in extremely high esteem compared to how others measure you.  People who have low esteem issues are the exact opposite - others measure them higher than they measure themselves.  You're the opposite.

I don't know there's any help for you,  because you reject people who tell you the truth.

[shyguy1080]

I have high self esteem?? Are you sure about that??? If i did... i wouldnt be so scared of women...

[RockRose]

I charged you with having undue high esteem,  shyguy.

[shyguy1080]

So what is it your saying? Im not following here.. I have very low self esteem, guilty as charged

[RockRose]

I would say,  shyguy,  that you have extremely elevated self-esteem.

You seem to have a feeling of entitlement that isn't backed up by any kind of social skills.  

[shyguy1080]

Alright, first off lets all calm down. I deserved the stuff penswritter said to me.. I don't hate women. I've just had alot of bad experinces.. And not sure what to do. As for the last girl, alright, alright i shouldnt have played that harmless joke on her, however, i dont belive why she ran off is 100 percent my fault, yes i was at fault for some but, i truley do belive she is a player.. Think about it, shes a totally sweet girl, low selfesteem that was the same type of girl back in 04 who totally hurt my feelings..
   You have no idea what i have gone through in my life..Do i have soul searching to do? You betcha. I need to figure out why I dont like myself. I appreciate the advice.. But the facts are that you are not around me in real life 24-7. Why do i have low self esteem? I gone to alot of parties, public places, etc, i never had a girl come up and flirt with me.. I would try to make eye contact, usually the girl would just look away. Do you see why im hesitant on approaching? As for POF, i send out so many messages, get very few replies and even then those girls stop talking to me.. It dosen't make me feel cool, ya know? When i get rejected by so many people.. That is my life, never had sucess with women.. I dunno, im just not likeable by females. And btw, i dont say this stuff to females in real life, im nice to them.. But they still don't seem to be interested in me. Ok? I hope you can understand this now.. Being a male is different than females. Females have guys chasing after them.. Us guys have it really tough.. And rejection really does hurt. Im not bashing anyone.. Im telling as is.