I did that exact thing about 7 years ago with a 7 year relationship. EXACT. I learned a lot from it. I became stronger because of it. Pack your bags, time to leave before it gets worse. Cause it does... I know it is hard and I am sure you won't listen to me, because I would not have. But pack your stuff. Tell him to go F* himself and go find someone better.
yes i did confront him about EVERYTHING.
he says its my fault that he did those things because i "cheated" on him. although i DID NOT. but he believes my old 14yr old friend over me. and she told him i cheated because she wanted me to be with my ex not him. so she was trying to break us up.
and about the texts and stuff... he still used the excuse that its cuz i cheated or that im just crazy and is seeing stuff... yeah. idk. and if i ask why he's not affectionate he says im too sensitive and i "think" i need it but i dont.
he beginning of what you said sounded ok, till when you said what you found. The dvds arent that bad but the rest, any one of those things are means for dumping. I have a problem with DH talking to other girls even knowing they are old friends and he doesnt say anything suggestive. THAT would throw me over the edge. Did you confront him about the texts at the time and say WTF?
You can find better, DO IT. :)
Your young, move on and get away from this guy as far as possible. If you stay with him, you will only leave yourself open to be more hurt in the furture. You dont deserve to be treated the way your bf is treating you. And like teko said, he's pretty much given you all the signs that he wants you out. I just dont think you need to be treated like this, you deserve way much better then he has to offer.
if you don't leave than it will continue. so you either have to put up with it or put your foot down and say enough.
I will be 20 on tuesday, and he just turned 27 in march. so he is 7 years older than me. and the guy from findlay i was talking about was way back in 2003.
i have just been sitting around waiting to see if things get better or not.. i mean cuz for some reason i feel like he WANTS to change but idk.. i just dont know if im ready to give up on him..
he has been trying to go to church every sunday and what not... and i feel bad because his dad used to abuse his mother and treat his sister as a "thing" not a person just because she is MRDD. then his dad left them when David was 10 after threatning to kill them... so he has had a somewhat rough childhood.. although that should be no excuse for what he's done and does..
im way to forgiving and thats whats got me stuck in this mess because im too stubborn to leave.. maybe i do deserve it.