My wife and I have been married for 20+ years. Since ours kids arrived, like many marriages, our relationship changed, some of which is, of course, normal. For the last two years, we have not had sex or anything close (both healthy 50 somethings). I am still very much in love and completely attracted to my wife and desperately need her intimacy. We've been in marriage counseling before and we've been in our current counseling for two years. I have never been unfaithful and my wife makes similar claims, which until recently I believed 100%. She's a devoted mother and claims to want to fix our marriage as well. However, like never before, something seems off. For any spouse out there who senses something but can't put your finger on it, you know what I mean. I truly want to believe her, but I keep wanting to view her emails or hack her phone, etc. So far, I have not done any of that. However, I recently was going thru the mail and I noticed an already opened health insurance claim file relating to my wife for a "ua/m w/rflx cutlure" (urinanlysis? yeast infection? not sure?) - so, I'm guessing she had some type of infection in her vagina, but that's about as far as my knowledge goes here. If so, it's all pretty normal, I'm thinking, except she, of course, has not been sexual active for long time, as far as I know. Should I be suspicious? Am I great big sucker here? Or is this completely normal and benign and I'm being a paranoid jerk? I welcome any input or honest info