Please don't give somebody the choice of "choosing you" or "choosing her". Don't give somebody that power over your life. Since he's showed interest in somebody else. Let him be with somebody else. If you let him go it could be so great for you. There are so many nice guys out there that would love you and not want other women. Please please don't let somebody do that to you. I went through it so many times with my ex and then when I finally decided to be done I met the most amazing man in the world. You and your baby deserve better. Even if its hard to let go because he's the baby's father it could be so much better for u
AND I would call the police on their ***** she is a child and a minor even if she is 17
I have been keeping up with your story and honestly I dont know how you can still put up with that momma specially being married.. youre so young and deserve SO much better.. if I was in your position he would have been out of the picture when it all started.. sometimes love isnt enough for some people and even if you love him I I hope realize how much more you deserve..
You should also file for full custody. Also put adultery on the paperwork as well. Speaking from Personal experience, it is better to file them at the same time. I would give your baby your last name as well.
And he sure as hell shouldnt be decided who he wants between his WIFE and some random. Like who the hell is he! .. Your not an option you should be his priority! I wouldnt stand for any of that bs you deserve a man who wants to be with you and only YOU. He obviously has no values.
Why is it HIS choice??? You need to move on what if he puts you at risk of an std and your baby!!! Why are you devalueing yourself