Herpes/syphillis

[scaredfemale388]

I realized that I have asked a lot of questions on here, but I feel that on this site, I have gotten the best advice and the most patience and understanding, especially from Grace and quite a few. It is almost by a two weeks to the date a year that I had gotten diagnosed with hsv 1 and negative on hsv 2. Since then I have slipped into depression, lost the person I acquired it from and found someone new. But my fears and self disgust I guess you would call it is keeping me from being comfortable with him. It is at a point with him and I that he is ready to be intimate, while I want to and am very skittish. I know that I have to have that "talk" with him, but the settings have not been right. he always wants to go out and do things and I feel that telling him is something that I should do with us being alone. I have also noticed that I have been scared that I might have other things to.. My main one was hiv. I had once read an article that stated that with herpes and bv it made you more susceptible to hiv. I have since tested four times and been negative ever since. However him and I have played a little, and by play I mean him fingering and I have given him oral sex.. I trusted him at the time and really feel like he is safe. I have had a post on her about giving oral sex with ejaculation if there is risk for hiv and got told i was not at risk. I am relieved. I am so tired of being so scared all the time and worrying do I have this and do I have that. I have been tested at the health department for Syphillis, Gonorrhea, chlamydia, hiv and herpes before, but I understand that hsv 1 does not get detected in blood tests, so now i know why i tested negative twice before. I tested negative for Gonorrhea, Chlamydia and Hiv, but can't remember my results for syphills, but this testing has been years back and i have not been active since. Am I right by thinking that if I had Syphillis that it would have appeared by now? Would I have been sicker? Should I worry? I am so sorry that this is yet another question and is so long, but I am worried. Thank you again for your patience and hope to hear your opinions soon.

[scaredfemale388]

How often does it shed if its genital hsv 1.  Never have sores ob mouth

[scaredfemale388]

Mine is genital hsv 1 . Never had any on mouth

[gracefromHHP]

hsv1 orally on average sheds about 18% of days. hsv2 genitally 15% of days.

[scaredfemale388]

So the hsv 1 which is what I have is more contagious and sheds more? I thought it shed less...will see dermatologist about skin and pick up some culturelle thank u

[gracefromHHP]

if the rash on the thigh isn't better in a week, perhaps a dermatologist is the best next step.   If you are having yeast issues that extensive, perhaps also pick up some culturelle at the drugstore/walmart etc. take it 2x/day to restore your "good" bowel bacteria that was destroyed with the antibiotics to get your whole body back on track. It has such good research behind it, we use it in hospitals even.

I've been turned down twice in over 25 years because of my genital herpes and both were germaphobes. It happens. Ironically both of them had hsv1 which despite my telling them sheds more than my hsv2 and is more contagious to others, still wasn't enough to convince them. oh well you win some, you lose some is the way I look at it. When someone runs, for whatever reason, you lick your wounds and get on with life - doesn't matter if it's because you told them you have herpes or if it's because they decide there is something else about you that they aren't able to deal with.  I think the negative connotations society has put on all std's just makes it easier to blame herpes and feel bad about yourself needlessly.  Always have bounced back and found someone who didn't care about my herpes after I was turned down specifically because of it  :)  My current bf never even knew he had hsv2 until he got tested. He was a bit surprised to say the least!  

[scaredfemale388]

Hello again, I have one more question. I had went to the doctor to see her about the rash on my back and the yeast infection. I have also developed some thrush on my tongue due to the clindamycin I was taking for my abscessed wisdom teeth removal a week ago. She stated that like I suspected it was due to the clindamycin antibiotic I was taking and that the rash on the back of my neck was either yeast or contact dermititis. Needless to say the medication she gave me for the yeast is working and it is going away and there is far less inflamation and irritation and itchiness. I do however have a rash on the same part of my thigh where i have my outbreak. I am wondering if this is an outbreak or if this is due to the yeast. I have showed this to the doctor and asked her if she thought it was an outbreak and she said no its not , she thinks that it  is due to the yeast infection as well. Can a bad yeast infection cause this rash with slight bit discoloration?

On another note, the guy that I am with now had noticed the rash on the back of my neck and asked me and i told him what the doctor said except for about the hsv 1 and after that he acted a little strange about it. He used to massage my shoulders and my neck, but when he touched my neck he used my hood to my jacket to contact my skin, not his bare hand. It was like he was afraid that he may catch my rash by contacting it. That makes me more afraid to tell him about the hsv 1 when its time, because he acted that way about a simple rash. I am scared that he would be afraid to be with me if I told him.