DEAR,
YES as both you and AnnieBrooke stated...TELL Him...NO, Means no....Not maybe later....and PLEASE do not allow him to try this one....IF YOU LOVE ME.... you will just let me..."for a minute" or..."just the tip"...because you will find out later in life that when they say, just for a minute.....that is all it takes for an std or pregnancy and not to burst your bubble, but after 4 children, two marriages and several "boyfriends"...NOT ALL AT THE SAME TIME....anyway..."IT" usually only takes about a minute...In the mans world "all night long", (SONG).. does not mean that... and when we women think all night long, we want and expect at least 20 minutes....HOWEVER that is so very few and far between...TAKE YOUR TIME...Lets just see if he is willing to wait for you...If so, you got a good one, and just think....THE PERFECT first time would be so much better if it was your wedding night....Men try to use the ...WELL, I have to have sex or this or that happens and I don't feel well (BLAH,BLAH,BLAH)...do not believe it....A relationship comes with advantages as well as dissapointments, and by the way, oral, fingered, third base.....SEX, no matter how softly it is worded....IT IS SEX...As Annie said....affection, back rub, holding hands, kissing...If he WANTS YOU... he will take you to dinner, movies, skating, bowling, whatever and PAY AS WELL...That shows he wants YOU....Not just what is in between your legs....GIRL, I KNOW OF WHAT I SPEAK!!!! Please do not find out the hard way....I was pregnant most of my 15th year and delivered 6 weeks after turning 16...I learned the HARD WAY...BECAUSE I BELIEVED HIM!!!!! As soon as I told him of pregnancy he said....ABORTION.....I DID.....I ABORTED HIM and now 36 years later, I have a wonderful, beautiful daughter that has given me 6 grandbabies so far....ALL AFTER SHE WAS MARRIED and in her twenties...HE has NEVER even seen her......He missed a beautiful person...he was just the sperm donor, I am Honored and BLESSED to be her mother...Now is the time not to get things to screwed up as you will live with the consequences....and always remember....YOU ARE SLEEPING WITH EVERYONE HE HAS, AND VISA-VERSA when it comes to health...Thank you for having the courage to come here and ask questions, I could not talk to my parents either and talking with friends was not appropiate either as they were going through their own turmoils. I will pray for you to be comforted and to find the answers and LOVE you seek, Have a wonderful Blessed Day!!! GOD BLESS!!! loimmarmar
Possibly the best thing is just to tell him that (as you said already) you don't intend to go all the way, but the good news is that you do intend to be affectionate. And that in order not to be confusing in the heat of the moment, you just want him to know that if you say stop, you'll mean it. Don't be distressed that he has had sex before. If he still wants to see you it shows that sex is not the only reason he is seeing someone. The relationship might change a lot in a relatively short time and you two might break up, but it probably won't be because you didn't go all the way. Relationships at 16 and 17 are usually not that long-lasting, too much is changing in the lives of the two people.