No sex drive!

[JessLedford6408]

I am 20 years old, and a mom and I am married and I have no sex drive lately. Before we had the baby we had sex alot and now when we do have sex it hurts sometimes and I always just want to have sex and get it over with to make my husband happy. What can I do to get my sex drive back?

[severin76]

If it is acceptable for both of you, you can try to focus on non-coital sexual activities (oral and manual sex etc...) with your husband if he needs sexual satisfaction and you find it difficult or unpleasant to have penetrative (vaginal) sexual intercourse. He could appreciate also this form of sex, it could reduce the sexual tension a lot, he can reach orgasm via these non-coital (oral, manual) stimulation and he will see that you really care for his needs and that his needs are not simply ignored. Moreover, in an ideal case, this form of stimulation can probably sometimes lead also to your own arousal and help you be in the mood for sex sooner or later. Of course, it is highly individual, so it does not have to be effective for all couples. All the best, severin76

[younggrandmother]

Becoming a new mother can be very stressful, you have no time for your self . Try to have a date night make some time for you and you husband,no baby this does not mean you don't love him/her.Dress-up if you look good it will make all the difference. As for it hurting when you have sex, you can buy some lubrication.Nursing mothers tend to produce less vaginal lubrication this can cause intercourse pain. Most of all get as much sleep as you can . Sleep when the baby sleeps if you a exhausted you won't be in the mood for nothing. Good luck :)