Hi,
For your age, piles is not expected. So you should definitely show it to a doctor and get it cured. Even if piles, there is a cryogenic (low temperture) technique available to shrink it, without an operation.
Solace
Ok it's not the going thru part it's just the plain outside door that hurts and itches and is so uncomfortable
When you go #2 is it hard to go? constipation would be very uncomfortable, so changing your diet is the first step to helping you feel better. Make sure to drink plenty of water and eat lots of fruit, which are high in fiber. There are better ways to deal with stress than food. Exercise is a great one or try something else you enjoy that can help you feel good about yourself.