Phobia of men

[sickly01]

I am 16 year old almost 17 and for the past 10 years I have been extremely afraid of men.I won't go to a male doctor,I don't like being around any males at all,I am even afraid of being alone with male family members including my dad.I was fine before I was 6 and then I just started being afraid.What is wrong with me?

[lilalokas]

definitely talk to someone at school or your mom if you're comfortable or another adult you trust about getting some counseling.  you may have supressed memories or there's a very high likelihood you could just be afraid from hearing those stories.. in either case your fears are very legitimate.  it ***** that you would be made to feel afraid at such a young age but you as a child were smart enough to develop a fear towards what could have been dangerous in your world.  now you're old enough that that fear is no longer needed to keep you safe and is probably a hinderance, getting in the way of positive male relationships that you probably crave.  you can move out of that stage of fear but you will need help to unravel and begin to understand where it came from. take care and best of luck. ps don't be discouraged if you don't like the first therapist you meet.  like any other relationship you need to find the right match and should trust and respect and like the person (a woman in your case to begin). sometimes it takes a few tries to find that match but when you do find it it's great to have the support and smarts of someone who is really and truly just there for your needs.  who couldn't use that. good luck!

[XOXO_019]

I think, like Beargizmo said, that maybe you were molested sometime in the past. Even if you weren't personally molested, maybe you were scared when you learned that your grandfather did that to your aunts and you were concerned about what would happen if he did those things to you. Maybe just from you learning this in the past, it made you afraid of what a bad man could do to you, especially because it happened in your family. I guess the only thing that might help this phobia is to see a counselor. I'm sure they could really help you through this. Sorry if I sounded a little rude in saying that.

Good luck and I hope all goes well!

[PromisedLand]

Well, you may wish to consult a professional who deals in these things..fortunately my daughters are doing well but it was tough going with them for a while.

Good luck.....I wish you the best

[sickly01]

There is no need to apologize.I also consider that as a possibility at times.Because my grandfather molested my aunts and I lived next door to him until he died when I was six and while I don't have any memories of being molested I do recall that my mother didn't like me being anywhere near him.

[PromisedLand]

I'm throwing this out as a possibility, not meant to alarm or cause any stress of any sort and only advice based on experience with many woman in my circle of friends.  I'm a 59 year old male, not a teen...

Is it at all possible that somewhere in your past you were molested and you have blocked out that memory?  I'd suggest consulting  a counselor at school or discussing with your mom..or both...I may be way off base here, but 2 women very close to me were in the same situation and it's been a life sentence for them...

If I'm off base, I am terribly sorry.  The 2 women of whom I speak are my stepdaughters who are now in their 20s and were molested by their "father" at a very early age.

Jim

[newzor]

I don't know why your affraid of them,
but I recommend you read my advice about how to cure phobias in the following journal:

http://www.medhelp.org/user_journals/show/139638?personal_page_id=833496

[TylerAllison]

I personally think it's just shyness....and if you have anxiety, your thoughts just go wild. This could also be caused by a extremely difficult event in your past life dealing with men, I'm male. But i'm personally afraid to confront women because i'm scared what they'll think of me and stuff. I have anxiety, So I hope my experiences will help you ;D