I am a 70 year old male and had a female friend who is 4 years younger than I. She is in exactly the same situation as what you describe. No matter how hard I tried I could not find a clitoris. Also she told me that she has never orgasmed and did not think that such a thing exists! She is married and has had children. There is no chance that it had been surgically removed. There are no scars and in every way the area is unblemished. Just thought I would share this with you so you know that you are not alone.
I'm kinda relived that I was lucy enough to find this blog, and learned that there are other women with this problem. I am 23 now, and I always thought that I am abnormal and maybe that's a sign. Or I am just really really sc*** up, because I have a lot more thing I don't like about my appareance. And I never found anything about this topic in my maternel language.
Even thougth I am able to reach orgasm with my own hands, I never experienced it with a men (but I always was shy and full of fears)
So I am grateful that you say it's not that abnormal, but I'm still afraid of being rejected because of this, since even if it's not abnormal medically, but it makes me different of other, avarage women.
Do you now any operation or anything I can change my condition?
And sorry for talking so freely about my feelings, But I am happy, that finally I could share my feelings.
Hi ladies I am a male and I was watching this lecture from somebody called dr phil valentine and he came across this topic about women not having a clitoris, from what I gathered he explained that women never had clitoris and that its a male feature, he goes on to say that in africa if a female had such a thing tthey would cut it of because they believed it made them more of a women and the clitoris was a mutation of the body. if you would like to check this out click onto the link.. I hope this helps.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hnhkqvW0zFA
click from 16 minutes
I'm the same way. My boyfriend and I have looked for it for over a year and still nothing. My doctor has never said anything about it, so I didn't think it was a problem until I was sexually active. I still enjoy sex, but I feel like I'm really missing out because I can't orgasm.
Also similarly to you, my puberty was smooth sailing, and even though I'm 20 and fully developed, people who don't know me think I'm still in high school (just this year two people have asked me if I'm 16).
I guess we just drew the short end of the stick :/
I'm surprised that no one has researched the anatomy of the clitoris. Here is a link to recent reliable research:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16145367
J Urol. 2005 Oct;174(4 Pt 1):1189-95.
Anatomy of the clitoris.
O'Connell HE, Sanjeevan KV, Hutson JM.
Source
Department of Urology, NeuroUrology and Continence Unit, Royal Melbourne Hospital, Victoria, Australia. Helen.O'***@****
I hope this is of interest and help