You are so right. Smell is a subjective sense, and we are all conditioned by our experiences to view things as "normal" or not based on opinions of others. I was a bit freaked by a similar situation a couple of years ago, but have researched and had good counsel by my health care provider. Please feel free to read my post, but be sure to read my final entry, which is where I am currently comfortable with my vaginal / vulvar smell.
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/WomensHealth/messages/1083.html. Jossie01, please explain. Either you are healthy or not, but your scent and odour are what the Good Lord gave you. Mine is still strong, but I have learned to accept my husband's appreciation of it as a sexual turnon. I am not so much onion like, but very pungent and musky, as I have explained in my posts, as more like a strong cheese. My gynaecologist explains that the glands of Bartholin's and Skenes, and the entire mucus membrane of a woman's vulva exude oils, fatty acids, and proteins that are as unique as our physical appearances. Please continue to research on your own, but barring infections or disease, we all DO have a smell to some extent. The thing to do is to become comfortable with your body, and if your partner still is not, well... that is another issue you may have to deal with. Hope this helps! - Ally