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No pleasure during sex
I'm 19 and every time I have sex I don't feel pleasure yes I can get arroused I had a baby but completely clueless how it happened if I don't even know the feeling of sex , what is wrong with me ..
Women do not have to feel pleasure or orgasm to get pregnant; all that is required is that sperm gets to the egg.
You may want to talk to the doctor if this is a big concern, but before you get to that point: have you tried experimenting on yourself? Finding what feels good to you so you can tell your partner what you'd like him to try? Maybe spending more time with foreplay when you two do have sex? Making sure you feel a connection outside the bedroom can help, too, and communicating about sex and what works and what doesn't is a major need.
You may want to talk to the doctor if this is a big concern, but before you get to that point: have you tried experimenting on yourself? Finding what feels good to you so you can tell your partner what you'd like him to try? Maybe spending more time with foreplay when you two do have sex? Making sure you feel a connection outside the bedroom can help, too, and communicating about sex and what works and what doesn't is a major need.
I have a couple times ..but since it was only just depressing me more because it wasn't working I stopped ..their is only a few times times that I felt only seconds of pleasure during sex but it would go away ,when I asked a doctor she said that it was just in my head
It could be. Since you have been able to, you could have stressed yourself with the worry that it won't happen again when it didn't. Think back to the couple times you did: how was your stress level compared to usual? Were you feeling more connected to your partner? I can only further suggest to try to let yourself get lost in the moment more and relax (Maybe ask for a massage, if you enjoy that), and if you haven't tried any of my suggestions, I do suggest trying them just to see if it helps.
I will say I have a friend who cannot orgasm through intercourse at all. She has to get hers by use of toys with her partner after he gets his. If I'm not relaxed enough or simply not as aroused initially as my partner, I will sometimes have to use a hand to get there, and many women do have to use clitoral stimulation in addition to what's going on elsewhere whether they give it to themselves or ask their partner to touch them if the position allows. Sometimes it helps me if I focus on what he's feeling. Feeling him getting excited will help get me along. I did have a period of time out of the blue a few years ago where I couldn't finish at all, and it was because I was allowing myself to be too stressed at first then when I first didn't finish, I started worrying about whether it would happen again, and that caused problems. Once I let go of that worry and decided to just try to enjoy the ride, it just naturally came about.
You could also see another doctor, but I don't know that you will get a different answer if one has. I hope you get to the bottom of this!
I will say I have a friend who cannot orgasm through intercourse at all. She has to get hers by use of toys with her partner after he gets his. If I'm not relaxed enough or simply not as aroused initially as my partner, I will sometimes have to use a hand to get there, and many women do have to use clitoral stimulation in addition to what's going on elsewhere whether they give it to themselves or ask their partner to touch them if the position allows. Sometimes it helps me if I focus on what he's feeling. Feeling him getting excited will help get me along. I did have a period of time out of the blue a few years ago where I couldn't finish at all, and it was because I was allowing myself to be too stressed at first then when I first didn't finish, I started worrying about whether it would happen again, and that caused problems. Once I let go of that worry and decided to just try to enjoy the ride, it just naturally came about.
You could also see another doctor, but I don't know that you will get a different answer if one has. I hope you get to the bottom of this!
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