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Relationship problem due to medicine
Hi, all. I'm seeking some information or opinion on a situation and appreciate your time in listening. I have been in a relationship for about 6 months now. My girlfriend takes Yasmin for birth control and also takes Aldactone. She was told that the combination of the two of them would control a cystic acne problem she has had for many years and finally, after many, many years of failed treatments, this combination has worked for her. She's in local television, so it's very important to her to have good skin. Well, the problem is that, she has absolutely zero sex drive. We've had sex once in 3 months and that was only because she knew I was dying and felt obligated. She went to her dermatologist and advised them of the problem and they concluded immediately that it was the Aldactone and suggested she try to stop taking it and see if the cystic acne problem came back. Well, she's stopped taking them for the most part, maybe one a week versus one a day, before and the acne has come back a bit, but it's been manageable. This has been almost a month now and I notice no change in her sex drive. She's been taking the Aldactone for about two years now and I don't know how long it should take for her to pick things back up with respect to her libido. Either way, it's killing me inside that she does not want to have sex and is the single biggest problem of this relationship. Everything else is great, but I'm having a really, really hard time with this.
Has anyone ever encountered a situation like this? Any advice? Any idea how long it may take for her libido to come back? There's no point talking to her about it, she's doing what she can, but that doesn't make nights like tonight any easier.
Thanks for your help.
Has anyone ever encountered a situation like this? Any advice? Any idea how long it may take for her libido to come back? There's no point talking to her about it, she's doing what she can, but that doesn't make nights like tonight any easier.
Thanks for your help.
Has your girlfriend's weight changed with the birth control? If so, maybe she is feeling frustrated with herself and is losing her sexual appetite.
I feel for you...I've been through a similar situation. When I was pregnant with my daughter - I NEVER wanted to have sex. My interest was zero. I eventually lost all of the baby weight and returned to normal...but once that happened - I'm pregnant again!!!!!!
I know it's difficult to cope with...but if you love her, you may just have to wait this one out.
**This may be bad advice, but sometimes a few drinks help. After my daughter was born, whenever my Mom would take the baby, my husband and I would share a bottle (or TWO) of wine. It helped shed any inhibitions that I had...it helped make me feel sexy again. It's definitely worth a try.
Maybe plan a date night twice a month? It will make the quality time you share together more romantic. (really go all out for her...candles, music, nice restaurant, etc)
I feel for you...I've been through a similar situation. When I was pregnant with my daughter - I NEVER wanted to have sex. My interest was zero. I eventually lost all of the baby weight and returned to normal...but once that happened - I'm pregnant again!!!!!!
I know it's difficult to cope with...but if you love her, you may just have to wait this one out.
**This may be bad advice, but sometimes a few drinks help. After my daughter was born, whenever my Mom would take the baby, my husband and I would share a bottle (or TWO) of wine. It helped shed any inhibitions that I had...it helped make me feel sexy again. It's definitely worth a try.
Maybe plan a date night twice a month? It will make the quality time you share together more romantic. (really go all out for her...candles, music, nice restaurant, etc)
ok so lemme say k? sex is not everything! if you really love her, you can survive using your hand! would u rather you two have sex and only you enjoy it?? or would u rather wait and (it will return! i promise!) have the best sex ever in your life with both of you enjoying it! and dont listen to the god freak because god is not going to damn u to hell for having sex before marriage..if he didnt encourage it then why did he bless me with two wonderful babies growing in my womb and im still in high school AND im NOT married! dont worry like i said it will return and if you really love her you can wait for her...
ok so lemme say k? sex is not everything! if you really love her, you can survive using your hand! would u rather you two have sex and only you enjoy it?? or would u rather wait and (it will return! i promise!) have the best sex ever in your life with both of you enjoying it! and dont listen to the god freak because god is not going to damn u to hell for having sex before marriage..if he didnt encourage it then why did he bless me with two wonderful babies growing in my womb and im still in high school AND im NOT married! dont worry like i said it will return and if you really love her you can wait for her...
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