A therapist is like your own personal cheerleader. heck, everyone needs a therapist in their corner. I'd choose a woman to help you feel more comfortable. And the good news about life is you always know there is someone more mess up than you. :>)) Therapists have heard lots of difficult, embarrassing, humiliating stories in their line of work. Your story will be a breath of fresh air. And it will be fulfilling for you both for them to try to help you. Don't be afraid. They ask you questions in a way that is not just where you spill your guts within 20 seconds. good luck
Thanks for your reply. I did look up the book you suggested- I guess its a good starting point. I feel so anxious just communicating about my problem over the internet with people I have never seen, that i dont know how can i ever face a therapist, a person with a face who can actually see me too. But i will think about it i promise.
Thank you for reading my post and replying. hugs back to you- I really needed them. I am so confused really. Therapist sounds too extreme
Sweetie, have you ever considered therapy? I wonder from what you write if you did not always have 'something' going on. My son has a neurological issue that is related to his sensory system. It has nothing to do with his intelligence, he's tested gifted and is a straight A student. He has activities and basically does really well. However, he has sensory integration disorder. When he was 4, he told me he felt different than the other kids (pretty heartbreaking as a mom to hear him verbalize this). This has always been the case. He often feels on the outside looking in in life event though he is by all accounts very successful.
This is something I think therapy can really help you with. You can dig deep to find out where these feelings may come from. Then some strategies to overcome them will be discussed. Your therapist will offer you challenges that may make you uncomfortable but help you work through this. Well worth it!
I also heard a phrase regarding my son that was basically Accentuate the positives, minimize the negatives. We've always gone with that. He's not perfect--- but he has great qualities. And we really focus on that. Then the negatives, we problem solve. But overall, we try to get him to see his positives so that he has a strong sense of self.
From what you write, you have many positives sweetie.
I know too, I'm an introvert. I also see myself as a bit different. I don't want to be around loads of people all the time and forcing small talk, etc. But I've worked to have some super close friends. They accept me for who I am. I don't have to fit in but can just be ME. And that sure feels good.
there is a psychologist who writes books and does them on audio named Brene Brown. Love her. I think you would find her audio book-- "The Gift of Imperfection" to be very helpful to you. And all of her other books are really great too.
Anyway, I found with my son, one friend made a huge difference. Just one. When you write, I see some similarities with you and him. I wonder if you didn't have something minor going on neurologically all this time that you weren't aware of. Worth talking about with a professional.
Feel better dear. peace
First.... Sending some virtual hugs to you :)
Second... Don't say that you need to be "fixed". Everyone (and I mean EVERYONE) has something, or more than one thing, they need to work on in their life.
I can tell you have a lot of emotions inside of you. Really consider seeing a therapist/counselor/etc... No, they won't say you are 'weird', but they will listen to you and help you to move forward in your life, making better choices every day. Maybe talking to a professional will help you make sense of the feelings you have about your past. But better yet, it may help you find some answers for the future.
Hope this helps.... Good luck.