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What was your first time like? Should I be worried about anything? What condoms would you recommend? What would you change about your first time?
Oh I gotcha. Thanks. I thought I knew a lot but then I realize that I dont so im learning lol thank you.
Lube is short for lubricant. Your body should naturally produce a fluid that acts as lubricant so there is no friction when you have intercourse. However, some women don't make enough or a guy will try to go in without much foreplay. In such cases, buying lube is a very good idea. Nothing hurts worse than having sex without enough lubrication in the area. I would suggest talking to someone in an adult store who can discuss the various sorts with you. There are water-based lubes, flavored lubes (not for internal use and only recommended for oral on a man then washed off before any intercourse happens), oil-based, etc.
Definitely second what Annie says regarding using condoms and getting on the pill, an IUD, or the implant. If you get on the pill, set a cell phone alarm to make sure you don't miss and that you take it at the same time daily for maximum efficacy. Being scared after your first time because the condom broke then having to rush around on New Years' weekend to find an open Planned Parenthood to get Plan B isn't exactly fun.
My first time was alright. It wasn't anything spectacular in feeling but it wasn't exactly bad either. I was nervous, and it hurt a little at first when he entered me, but after that, I was fine. Finding out the next day that the condom had broke wasn't fun, but it did teach me that I could trust him to tell me these things.
Do expect some light bleeding that turns to spotting over the time from right after through the next 2-3 days. If it gets heavier or persists, you'll need to be concerned. Some girls don't bleed, but the majority do. My hymen was already broken from childhood but I still bled some. I also experienced bleeding of the same nature for my second time and maybe even my third time. There were maybe 4-6 days in between each time, so I can't attest to what happens bleeding-wise if you have sex multiple days in a row after your first time.
Clean up afterward! It's important to do this to avoid anything like a UTI. Peeing will help clear out any bacteria was pushed up in there. Believe you me when I say UTIs aren't fun. I had one once, and it was the one time I was lazy and cleaned up but didn't go to the bathroom to pee.
Don't expect to get there just from him moving in and out. Some women do, but a lot need to either give themselves a hand during intercourse or have their guy do so if the position permits. However, I will say that it helps A LOT if you get enough foreplay beforehand. Not only will it progress you along to possibly being able to finish without a hand but it will also help make sure you are definitely wet enough when he does enter.
On the same token, I find it's easier to get there if I don't make sex about getting there but rather enjoying the feelings of the whole process, paying attention to how he feels, etc. Some people focus too much on the end result and end up stressing themselves out. Sometimes it's ok not to get there.
I second what Annie says about lube. Get some lube that's safe for use with condoms. You may not need it, but in case you do, it's better to have it. A lot of adult stores do have small sample packets for fairly cheap if you don't want to buy a whole bottle until you're sure you even need lube.
My first time was alright. It wasn't anything spectacular in feeling but it wasn't exactly bad either. I was nervous, and it hurt a little at first when he entered me, but after that, I was fine. Finding out the next day that the condom had broke wasn't fun, but it did teach me that I could trust him to tell me these things.
Do expect some light bleeding that turns to spotting over the time from right after through the next 2-3 days. If it gets heavier or persists, you'll need to be concerned. Some girls don't bleed, but the majority do. My hymen was already broken from childhood but I still bled some. I also experienced bleeding of the same nature for my second time and maybe even my third time. There were maybe 4-6 days in between each time, so I can't attest to what happens bleeding-wise if you have sex multiple days in a row after your first time.
Clean up afterward! It's important to do this to avoid anything like a UTI. Peeing will help clear out any bacteria was pushed up in there. Believe you me when I say UTIs aren't fun. I had one once, and it was the one time I was lazy and cleaned up but didn't go to the bathroom to pee.
Don't expect to get there just from him moving in and out. Some women do, but a lot need to either give themselves a hand during intercourse or have their guy do so if the position permits. However, I will say that it helps A LOT if you get enough foreplay beforehand. Not only will it progress you along to possibly being able to finish without a hand but it will also help make sure you are definitely wet enough when he does enter.
On the same token, I find it's easier to get there if I don't make sex about getting there but rather enjoying the feelings of the whole process, paying attention to how he feels, etc. Some people focus too much on the end result and end up stressing themselves out. Sometimes it's ok not to get there.
I second what Annie says about lube. Get some lube that's safe for use with condoms. You may not need it, but in case you do, it's better to have it. A lot of adult stores do have small sample packets for fairly cheap if you don't want to buy a whole bottle until you're sure you even need lube.
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I would not have done it for the reason I did it, which was, my boyfriend wanted it. And he was more sophisticated than I was, and other girls liked him, so I knew if I wanted him to be my boyfriend I had to sleep with him.
Second, I was so nervous that it hurt.
Third, please get onto the Pill, implant or IUD, if you intend to be sexually active, and also use condoms (as the first three things prevent pregnancy but not STDs and not AIDS).
Fourth, use condom-safe lubricant, and lubricated condoms.
Second, I was so nervous that it hurt.
Third, please get onto the Pill, implant or IUD, if you intend to be sexually active, and also use condoms (as the first three things prevent pregnancy but not STDs and not AIDS).
Fourth, use condom-safe lubricant, and lubricated condoms.
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