vaginal ulcer

[helpplease123321]

Hello, i'm a young female in her mid 20s and I have been suffering from a vaginal ulcer for almost a year now. I first noticed the pain when me and my boyfriend were having intercourse. I looked in the mirror and saw a raw open ulcer near the opening of my vagina. I saw a gyno and she tested me for all STDs including herpes and everything came back negative. The ulcer only hurts when I have sex with my boyfriend and for a short duration afterward. During sex, the ulcer will bleed and small flesh-like pieces will be on the tissue afterwards when I wipe. The ulcer will heal after a few days of not having sex.. almost to the point where you can't even tell it ever existed, but once we have sex again it opens back up. I have seen 3 gynos and a vulvar dermatologist specialist and no one knows what is going on. Anyone else in a similar situation?!  

[specialmom]

Ouch.  That sounds unpleasant.  Three gynos and a vulvar derm specialist and they have no explanation for this ulcer?  Does it need time to heal with no sexual activity or friction to reopen it?  

[helpplease123321]

If there is no sexual activity, it will heal. For example, if we have sex, the ulcer will open and then heal 4-7 days after sex if we abstain from intercourse during that time. My bf and I tried abstaining from sex for  6 weeks, but as soon as we have sex.. the ulcer bleeds and is open and raw again. So in that case, the ulcer was healed and not noticeable after about a week, then we waited another 5 weeks for good measure, but sure enough.. the ulcer came back