White, Male, 55, I used to go to Caribbean 3 times a year for 10 year period, so I've had a lot of sun and sunburns. Plus, in college, used to float down river half the days of the summer in a tube with baby oil on back in the '80's. My dad and sister have had some moles/growths removed, and yet, I have escaped being diagnosed with anything (so far) but I go to dermatologist annually. I recently switched dermatologists because the one I was going to wasn't very thorough. She'd spend less than 10 minutes total on me, never used a magnifier, never examined beneath my underwear, rarely looked at my feet. My dad had a growth removed from his ear, my sister had a growth removed from her shoulder and foot, both were .. I don't recall, but not totally benign. So I'm concerned. So, got a referral from a friend/cousin for another dermatologist, she's much more thorough, and sometimes even has an intern or resident look me over as well. (the more, the merrier/better! I'd rather be embarrassed than have skin cancer). Well, I've read articles that indicate that dermatologists often overlook/don't examine a patient's butts and genitals, for fear of making them uncomfortable and that they should really be looking everywhere, regardless of whether the sun is ever exposed to that skin. A couple articles have indicated that dermatologists ought to be spreading your cheeks and looking at your anus! So... here's my question - how do I ask my doctor to be "that" thorough without sounding like a pervert? I'm serious. I'm 50's and she's a beautiful 30-something and always has an attractive associate with her, they look all over me at my ears, nose, back, legs, feet, arms, but only sort of glance at my genitals and have looked at my butt (they're following, and have taken pics of a mole on my right cheek!) but they have never spread my cheeks and looked at my anus and they've never really looked closely at my genitals like they have (with the magnifying thing) for my ears and other parts. I actually have a spot on the head of my penis that I worry about, it's very faint, and not very noticeable. Every time, I think I'll say something but I don't. I know I should. I'd rather be embarrassed and feel awkward than not catch early diagnosis, but won't it seem weird if I ask, literally ask to have my genitals and anus examined? Seriously, how do I bring that up?