Well, it is certainly a relief to know there is someone else out there with this problem..he is my 2nd child of 4 and none of our others are like this..but I guess I had the right idea.. because tonight before bed he was trying to decide about if he was going to come run and errand with me tomorrow or stay home.. and I told him.. its no longer your decision to worry about.. we will tell you where you will be. And that is just the way it is going to have to be. He may be miserable and feel like we are punishing him but when his actions effect his siblings negatively we have to stop it. I was thinking the same thing about if we were modeling not being able to make decisions and realized my husband analyzes all decisions till her drives me nuts.. I always tell him he can't make decisions because he doesn't want to be held responsible for mistakes.. sounds harsh but I think its true :0) He actually agreed with me.. so maybe our son is picking it up from us.. I don't want him to grow up afraid of doing the wrong thing..you can't get through life not taking any rsponsiblitis.. I guess this is something we will have to work on.. thanks for the words of encouragement!
My son is like this too. Just make the decision for him. Burger or chicken nuggets? Just choose and when he says, "But I wanted...." Say, "Ok, next time I'll get you..."
I don't think they are too young. My son is my first child, I've always thought it was because I made so many decisions for him when he was little. For the first 3 1/2 years all my attention was on him and I chose everything for him.
Obviously our children have high anxiety over little things. Right now, my son is 8 1/2, I say, "Do you want to go or stay?" If he says stay, he can change his mind one time, but I don't ask him "are you sure?" I don't second guess him because that makes him second guess himself.
I can't make a decision either. I ask whoever is with me what they are going to order, what they are going to do, etc. If you do that, maybe you are modeling insecurities to him?
From now on if you want him to go, just tell him to go...lol...make his life easier for himself. Good luck!