Clothing related issue

[tuesdaysmom]

My 6 year old daughter recently became unbearable when it comes to dressing. She can no longer wear normal underwear. I have bought so many different pairs including boys and still no luck. Every morning is a nightmare. I feel like I am composure. In the past we experienced issues with socks and any thing that got even the slightest bit wet. But this new problem takes the cake. I tried everything and still I can help her. What a terrible feeling.

Please help, I am lost.


This discussion is related to 4-Year Old with Clothing Issues.

[specialmom]

Oh, and one other thing.  One of my son's biggest hot buttons or triggers is wet clothing.  he can not take it.  Still at 8, he really struggles with it and his inclination is to rip whatever it is off.  Very hard on him.

[specialmom]

this is classic tactile defensiveness as part of the sensory system.  My son has this issue as well.  He will flat out resist something and act like it is hurting.  We do occupational therapy and a 'brushing protocol" which has really helped.  Our OT talks about the nervous system and processing of various tactile textures and sensations to be sending a   missignal to the brain.  It may send a pain signal or is so irritating that a child can't think about anything else.  It is very real.  

You can read more about this online or we now have a sensory forum here at med help.  good luck.  My son has gotten better but I do try to be understanding to how something feels and problem solve it.  They make underwear with no tags now and if I find one pair he likes, we buy 30 of them.  

[smb241]

Dear RockRose,
I recommend you think before you type.

Of course it isn't brain cancer.  But, a condition like this is real and it is everyday.  And it impacts the child and caregiver(s).  

Also, it is normal for a parent to seek the advice of others in similar situations and to want to learn what has worked or not worked.  It is called being proactive.

I found your post both insenstive and unhelpful.

Kindest regards,
SMB

[AHP84]

Sounds like sensory integration disorder.

[rilbrianne]

I don't understand the problem... she doesn't want to wear them at all? They irritate her? She doesn't like her clothes being wet or dirty???

I don't know what the question is really but perhaps she has a sensory condition and gets irritated by the clothing.  Perhaps something "down there" is irritated and when her clothing is touching, it bothers her.  
Have you mentioned this to your pediatrician?  Best to rule out any medical reason.  

[RockRose]

Tuesdaysmom,  I think in cases like this,  perspective is everything.  As parents we so often get tripped up over small things and fail to see the big picture.

From your tone, t his is causing you great angst,  "I am lost",  I think there was a misspeak and you intended to say "I feel like I am losing my composure"?  

This isn't brain cancer,  this is a child who doesn't want to wear panties.   I can't tell from your post what specific things about panties irritate her and I hope you can find out and work with this.

I think we've all been there,  where we lose perspective,  and I hope you are able to readjust and get her through this.

Best wishes.