appropriate age for girls

[milehighguy]

what age is the appropriate age for a father to stop picking up his daughter and letting her wrap her legs around his waist while they hug and kiss each other on the lips?

[margypops]

Its good that the relationship is over as he may not chamge ,he has said he doesnt want to , so its best to move on, it may seem over the top to us but some cultures are like that , I see it amongst Latin folks where I live, so if it makes you uncomfortable best not to be around it ...

[milehighguy]

Narla, we have been together almost a year and I have seen him do that a few times, not always. He broke it off with me today over the phone at work so it won't be an issue anymore. Thanks for your help though, but now I'm heart broken.  My son begged him not to and I feel so bad for my son now. Lisi251, no it's not strange to kiss your child and I'm really sorry to hear about your past experience. I hope you are doing ok now.

[Lisi251]

I understand what you are saying & do find it very disturbing.At the same time just wanted to make sure that everyone did not feel it was strange to kiss your child.
I will be the first one to look out for any strange behavior around children being that I was molested as a child from 5 years old until I was 9.

[narla]

You have said your son thinks of him as a stepfather,how long have you been together?and has he always been this way towards his daughter?I assumed it was a fairly new relationship.But no you can't change him so don't even try.

Denise

[milehighguy]

You are right, my son does not need that type of confusion in his pubescent stage of life. However, he feels this guy is like a stepfather to him and he loves him, and knows I do too. This is really hard. Am i asking too much of him to ask him to change his behavior or I can't stay in this relationship? I hate ultimatums, but how else can this be resolved? I'm torn...

[narla]

You've said it yourself you can't be comfortable with this,you don't want to live the rest of your life being uncomfortable,he won't change especially if he thinks there is nothing wrong with the behaviours,You really don't have much choice,and no you are not wrong,also your son is important,I'd be worried in case she started to flirt with him.He doesn't need this this type of confusion when he is going through adolescence,My personal opinion,I'd leave.

Denise