appropriate age for girls

[milehighguy]

what age is the appropriate age for a father to stop picking up his daughter and letting her wrap her legs around his waist while they hug and kiss each other on the lips?

[RockRose]

I agree with Margy.  This sounds like way too much to me.  

I don't even think kissing a toddler on the mouth is okay.   I mean,  they all do it,  giving you slobbery kisses on your mouth but then you say no on my cheek like this.  

For a dad to be kissing her face all over is the kind of thing you do with a 1 year old.  

The mini skirts and boots thing really seals the deal,  milehighguy.  

[margypops]

May I ask what your relationship is here with the child and the father, in differant cultures there is differant affection,all I can speak is from my experience in the US  from your description it does seem too much ,if you are a close relative of the fathers you could mention to him  that it makes you feel uncomfortable, has the mother of the child or any other relative expressed any discomfort aswell as you?/ It is not easy to give you a definitive answer, it is up to the father here to tone it down lessen the encouragement.

[narla]

It is so hard to know,every father daughter relationship is different,in our family my husband didn't really kiss my daughter on the lips it just didn't happen,it's not like you can set an age where you say no more kissing on the lips.My daughter didn't wear provocative clothes and she didn't prance around in front of him either.There is no hard and fast rule.

Denise

[milehighguy]

Thank you for your comment. The situation is this...a father who has 4 girls loves on one very affectionately, but not the others. She is about 9 reaches for her dad to pick her up and she straddlles her dad's waste while she is kissing his mouth. When on the couch, she always straddles his one leg or lays in his lap while he kisses her all over her face. This goes on for a while. To me it seems she is too old to be this affectionate with her father. I see this affection ok for a toddler, but not girls after a certain age. She likes to wear mini skirts and boots and prance around him flirtingly while he lays on the floor. I have heard of the Oedipus Complex where the child sees the parent as a boyfriend. I just think the father should not encourage her behavior. A father's relationship with his daughter determines her future relationships. I think this is sending her a message to be overly affectionte and that can get her in trouble as she gets older. Am I wrong to feel this is offensive behavior?

[margypops]

I dont think there is an appropiate age for this however it may look strange at say a teen doing it, because of her size, what bothers you about it ?some families are very affectionate ..can you enlarge..