Dating Oxycontin IV User

[Escrazy]

OK guys I need some advice.  I am dating someone that IV's oxycontin.  It scares me quite a bit.  I am the only person he has told and feel a certain sick pride in that.  Sometimes I think I should cut it loose but, I guess the question is, do you think I am helping him by being there and being someone he can be honest with, or is it just doomed to failure and am I wasting time on someone that will end up hurting me in some way or another?

By the way, he buys them illegally, so no prescription.  Takes 1 or 2 a day-highest dose possible.

[Escrazy]

I have actually heard that before, from him.  He seems to be a bit of a snob when it comes to Heroin.  He seems to be pretty good at figuring out how to get money every day.  I am starting to think that maybe there are some other women that I don't know about footing the bill.  He has never asked me for cash but he always lets me know loud and clear when he is hurting.  He is a very intelligent guy and very charming, so it would make sense.

I don't think he is above resorting to heroin but for now he thinks he never would..  Not sure if he did it in the past but seems content with his oxies at this point!!!!

I gotta admit that his intelligence is intriguing, but I know that he will worm his way deeper into my heart and probably into my wallet, if I don't stop it now.

[KiaKaha]

You are a very sensible girl! Self preservation is priority in your situation...it's a safety issue for you and your child. Thinking of you and have a wonderful birthday this weekend XO

[jt808]

i read over the comments and what u had to say honestly u really kno how he is and how bad u thnk it is, BUT i do have to tell u somethn from experience it may not hold true to him but im guessing if not now eventuaklly it will haoppan and that is if he is iv'ing oxies whicha re expensive esp  on the street that one day he will either a. not have the cash to buy tham or b. not be able to get high off em, than come the next BIG problem and that is HEROIN is the next step i have seen it soooooooooooooo much esp. wth iv users cuz its so cheap to get that instead of oxies and u get higher so honestl;y watch out for u and if u wana be there for him thts great but seriously dont get too attached id say stay friends and see how tht goes cuz u saiod he just started using again recently si he hasnt been totlay at it for log time yet since he quite last time so just wait till he gets bad and belive me if he doesnt quit ehe will get worse and quite possibly move onto heroin alota people do sorry to say. good luck

[Escrazy]

You know the problem with helping him get help, or asking him to quit or any of it, is that he has quit before, he knows what he needs to do.  Me asking is silly because he is doing what he is doing and I don't think my feelings have any bearing on his actions.

I really care deeply for this man but I don't think someone this dead set on using is going to quit because I ask him too.  It's not like we are married or even have a long serious relationship to contend with.  My feelings are stronger than makes sense but that is sort of just tough luck right now!

My plan is to tell him that I don't think we should date any more (when I work up the gumption).  I will offer him my friendship but from a distance.  Seeing him in person is too difficult because of my feelings for him.  I am not going to take away the only person he has to be honest with, but I know I need to protect myself.  Also, I did not mention it in previous post but I have a child (10) and being a responsible parent is more important to me than trying to help him!

[genesis28_15]

My husband has been hooked off and on for many years just the last 4 years has been really bad.  He began shooting up He has gotten help 3 times now the last time lasted alot longer He went to aa meetings everyday sometimes twice aday.  He went in hospital for it and then had outpatient for a couple of months. Did real good and then one time use started back up again.  He hates having this life.  He is trying now to get in with a doctor to get on suboxin.  He tried that before.  Its better than methodone I think.  But dont give up on him.  Help him to get help for himself.  Get him into church let him know there is help out there.  I'll be praying for him.  Good Luck

[Escrazy]

By the way I have not had the courage to actually tell him that I am not going to see him anymore, I have just stopped answering the phone or calling him.  Need a little time to gather my strength.  If he asks me to stay, I just don't know that I could handle it..  Although who knows, maybe it won't matter at all?  Hoping all of this could work out without hurting him more than I know he already hurts himself.

As if relationships aren't hard enough, jeez!