Problems with Spouce

[thisissohard]

Anyone else having difficutly with their spouce during withdrawals? Or DURING the times you used opiates?  I find mine to be short tempered and lacks sensitivity.  never wants to talk about any issues.  Puts pressure on me to quit using pain meds for my back, then when I do, he does not want me to talk to him about how I'm feeling.

[bobby139]

YES, I know what your saying.....but my hubby keeps trying to get me to take pills?????
he say's he likes it when am quite...Just turn them off i guess and keep up the good work!
bobby

[Army220]

Hang in there girl.  I am an enviro.engin.  Hard to believe it happens to all walks of life.  You got your kids to get you thru it.  If your husband will not support you what about someone else that cares  about you that you can trust?  

[10356]

My hubbys a machinist I understand You know the joke don't let him have a pencil lol Limbo

[CleandUP]

I know how u feel. When I quit c/t my g/f was like "why won't you workout with me" and "you have no energy when alls u do is go to classes, and I work and go to classes". Couldnt explain to her i was w/d from vicodin. I knew for it was for the best of our relationship..

[thisissohard]

Thanks for the comments,, they help tremendously! My husband is an engineer so he thinks in terms of fixing things, but not feelings.  Difficult for me because I am a very emotional person.

[what2donow]

I understand what your going thru! Keep ur chin up.We will all be here for you and talk about anything with ya.

Just know that not ALL men are like that  ;)   Trust me on that too.

BIG HUG!!!!!!

Be geltle with yourself

[10356]

It may-be he dose not understand and sometimes it is hard to hear that some-one you love is hurt. I know my hubby wants to fix things and if he can"t in comes the distance Its like life is easier if you don't know so you shut it down before you do, you know? I'm sure he loves you our he would not care what you did. We are here and will listen any-time Limbo

[newmanagment]

ummmm, i have the same issues, but its been the last 8 years, since we met LOL.. for real, i hope it gets better for ya. much love

[catmagnet]

Oh yeah, join the club! Hubby thinks I'm a lion instead of a cat, and I'm not speaking about ALL GUYS, so guys, please don't get mad, but I think men in general are afraid to admit their feelings and sometimes distance themselves away at times like this, especially toward thier loved ones. I'm sure he loves you very much, I know mine does, I wouldn't worry. He'll simmer down. Ironically, some of my best friends are men and I cry to them all the time, but it's easier for them to listen as an objective observer rather than being emotionally invoved. Take care  cat   =)

[allaboutmary]

You are not alone in this.  Thats why this forum is so helpful.  Alot of non-addicts don't understand and think we should just get over it.  It is very important that we talk about what we are going through, but it's also not easy for them to understand. Actually your husband sounds like my x.  Never wanted to discuss feelings etc..  Keep posting and reading on here.

[cathy5841]

hun i am sorry he is not giving you the support you need.  you deserve some tenderness during this very difficult time.  but he dies siund like a typical man..LOL  oops did i say that.  keep coming here and those of us who have been there will be here for you.