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Question from shocked wife of newly disclosed husband's opiate use/abuse.
Hello, My husband has just told me that he has been using/abusing opiates for over a year and a half without my knowledge. (I did wonder where the money was going but didn't think of anything like that.) Anyway, he is detoxing himself (allegedly) and is very weepy and has an answer for everthing. He is suddenly an expert on drug detox and withdrawal and everything related. He is almost 40 years old. We are upper middle class people, have 5 sons from toddler age to college......I am at a loss. Question - is it likely he can detox himself?
Oh -and I also told him about all of you guys and the support you have to offer. He is going to think about it. If he does - I prob will beg off so he can have his own "place" without me - ya know?
Hi everyone,
Well, actually, I have had a tough day or two with my hub. I actually let the kids go with my parents for the weekend - so we have been mostly alone. He still can't sleep - so that is causing stress for him, he actually didn't come home Friday night - (stayed over his parents where, I think, they totally baby him and find excuses for his "problem" as they call it and yada yada yada. So, here I was all night - no idea where he was and finally, about 12midnight - his mom sent me a text saying "he is here just so you don't worry". ?????????
Came home Saturday night - drunk - I was shocked. He said - I can't sleep - nothing is helping - so I'm going to start drinking. (We are not at home drinkers - I mean - we don't usually drink at all unless we go to a ??? wedding, some other type of event. There is no alcohol in our house. So - this is new.
He was yelling at me last night - calling me names - all of that - so, I went to my mom's and stayed there. I came home a bit ago and he is well on his way to being drunk again. I see a case of beer and a bottle of Jack Daniels on the counter. The beers are opened - the Jack Daniels is not.
I don't think he is taking anymore oxycontin but - I did find - again - right on his bureau - a pill he said someone gave him one but - he didn't take it. He said it is just like oxycontin but it is called morphine sulphate 30 and it has a long acting ???? effect.
I'm glad he didn't take it - we flushed it.
So -oooohhhhh - yesterday morning. I did go to an alanon meeting. I just sat there - didn't talk - but, during the break - a few people introduced themselves and welcomed me - so that was nice. I felt ok. They told me about another one today, tomorrow, next day etc. etc. They seem to be at different places. So - I will prob go again.
That is where I am at. Sound normal? Whatever that is.
I hope all is well with everyone.
Kat
Well, actually, I have had a tough day or two with my hub. I actually let the kids go with my parents for the weekend - so we have been mostly alone. He still can't sleep - so that is causing stress for him, he actually didn't come home Friday night - (stayed over his parents where, I think, they totally baby him and find excuses for his "problem" as they call it and yada yada yada. So, here I was all night - no idea where he was and finally, about 12midnight - his mom sent me a text saying "he is here just so you don't worry". ?????????
Came home Saturday night - drunk - I was shocked. He said - I can't sleep - nothing is helping - so I'm going to start drinking. (We are not at home drinkers - I mean - we don't usually drink at all unless we go to a ??? wedding, some other type of event. There is no alcohol in our house. So - this is new.
He was yelling at me last night - calling me names - all of that - so, I went to my mom's and stayed there. I came home a bit ago and he is well on his way to being drunk again. I see a case of beer and a bottle of Jack Daniels on the counter. The beers are opened - the Jack Daniels is not.
I don't think he is taking anymore oxycontin but - I did find - again - right on his bureau - a pill he said someone gave him one but - he didn't take it. He said it is just like oxycontin but it is called morphine sulphate 30 and it has a long acting ???? effect.
I'm glad he didn't take it - we flushed it.
So -oooohhhhh - yesterday morning. I did go to an alanon meeting. I just sat there - didn't talk - but, during the break - a few people introduced themselves and welcomed me - so that was nice. I felt ok. They told me about another one today, tomorrow, next day etc. etc. They seem to be at different places. So - I will prob go again.
That is where I am at. Sound normal? Whatever that is.
I hope all is well with everyone.
Kat
I absolutely agree that the sleep issue is oxy related. I remember going a 9 day stretch where I could not sleep more than 10 or 15 min at a time. It is pure heII to go through but thankfully it does return to normal.
I really feel for your situation for having so much on your plate. I'm an addict too and I know all too well how tough this is. All of us come here with the notion that if we could just get past the withdrawal symptoms we will have this thing licked and it is so much harder than that. The fact is if your husband is not getting outside and continuing help with his addiction his chances are slim that he can overcome this by himself.
I sure am not trying to discourage you but I think the alanon thing is the best place for you to get informed.
Goodluck and Godspeed,
bob
I really feel for your situation for having so much on your plate. I'm an addict too and I know all too well how tough this is. All of us come here with the notion that if we could just get past the withdrawal symptoms we will have this thing licked and it is so much harder than that. The fact is if your husband is not getting outside and continuing help with his addiction his chances are slim that he can overcome this by himself.
I sure am not trying to discourage you but I think the alanon thing is the best place for you to get informed.
Goodluck and Godspeed,
bob
No sleep is all too common for some time after quitting. The body's chemistry is totally changed by use of these drugs. It takes a long time for things to reset. Exercising in the late afternoon can help. I took melatonin 10mg. It's natural and worked for me. I still use it on occasion but I only take 1.5mg now. Mega vitamins and mega supps throughout the day is good, maybe for many months after. again, the body can't assimilate the nutrients because of what the drugs robbed from it.
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I guess for someone who is an insomniac getting off the opiates would probably really through their sleeping patterns out of whack. The ability to get a normal nights sleep seems to be the last thing that returns to normal as far as the physical withdrawals go.