Update-what now???

[Needhelp59]

Decided to start a new thread since the other had gotten so long.  Thanks to all that have been supportive and wanted an update.  Unfortunately I have no idea where we stand.  Let me back up.  I called her and evidently she found her stash was missing and she was LIVID.  How could I betray her?  It wasn't hers....am I trying to destroy her?  I hung up called her husband and he said he was tied up at work and couldn't get away.  So I rode out there by myself.  When I got there the door was unlocked but her car was gone.  Being the upset sleuth that I am, I started looking again.  I found pipes, empty prescription bottles with foil and holes punched in the side??(not a clue what that was).  Also found a lot of baggies with just the little corner ends cut off ??  I took these too.  Just as I was getting ready to leave, I heard something in the nursery and low and behold she had left her little girl there!  She was in her bed and had been crying - she was scared to death!  I went in, hugged her, kissed her and asked her if she wanted to go on an adventure.  I washed her off, fixed her hair, dressed her, packed some clothes and got some toys and off we went.  I didn't even leave a note.  HOW COULD SHE???  For all she knows, when she goes home, someone could have kidnapped that baby.  I have called my dad and he is coming over and I am going to lay it all out for him.  I know my husband will be supportive.  At this point I am so pis--- at both of them I would like to try to see if I could at least get her (the baby) temporarily removed from the home into my care.  My dad is ready to choke her.  Her husband won't come out and say but I don't think he want to participate in any intervention.  I am going to get Dad and when my husband gets home the minister is coming over.  I probably shouldn't say this but I know who got her started, and although she didn't twist her arm, she will not leave her alone.  I know where this girl lives and I know they have drugs at their home along with drug paraphenelia, scales, etc (my sister has told me this).  They have 2 toddler girls.  If I could do it anonomously I would report them.  Again there are 2 babies that I believe are in danger.  JESUS HELP ME.  I have no tears left to cry.  THanks for listening.

[bmc1976]

What do you mean that this sounds fishy? Are you talking about her story? She has posted before about this. I guess I don't understand your reply. Mind adding a little more so I understand? Thanks......
brian

[flmagi]

I agree r2r, the husband has to be useing. What father, in his right mind would allow this to go on in the house, stuff laying around, with a baby that could just put it in her mouth?  OMG

[road2recovery]

OMG--i just got home and read this, you have gotten some great advice...I am so choked up , and could just cry ....You need to do whatever it takes for those children...I am not saying dont;' worry about her, but they come first..
Thanks god you got there.....That poor little girl...
This is **** you see on tv...
I also think it is **** with her husband...Either he is the biggest wus, or he is using too..It makes no sense to me that you found all of this so easy and he did not!!!
I just don't get it!
good luck and god bless u
r2r

[flmagi]

This is unbeleivable.Those poor kids. After reading all this, I'm very afraid of what might happen tonight. I hope that your sister doesn't have a key to your house. Please be on alert, you will probably end up with your sister and her husband at your door tonight. And it may not be a pretty site for the kids to see.
You are absolutely doing the right thing.

[cleanasawhistle]

I'm sorry to be the first to have to say this, but this sounds a little fishy to me and it's all happening so fast....?? Ironic?  Just seems like there are A LOT of loose ends going on here...

[troubleinohio]

wow.....how long did she leave the little girl alone for?? that is just so insane. I cant wrap my mind around it even. I get nervous just when i go out to get the mail or take out the garbage,  that the house is going to suddenly burst into flames or something! (and thats with the baby monitor around my neck so i can hear everything, every second)
Im so glad you have your niece with you now, i hope you are granted custody for as long as possible. Keep us posted and i will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers!  

[toxictome]

I sit here typing w/ tears in my eyes. If child/social protective services doesn't have  any advice for the drugs..I'd call the cops and have them come and get them and take a report.....YOU are  a godsend for those children...ont only the little one...but my heart is breaking for the 17 yr. old who obviously needs guidance and from an adult also...poor thing...i couldn't stand he was going to his awards banquet ALONE!!! It is tough enough being a teen , let alone w/ no one to suport and encourage you on your accomplishments  and endeavors....
You have to be the BEST aunt in the world!!!!!  GOD BLESS YOU!!!!

BIG,BIG HUGS!!!!!!

[confused456]

I have all of you in my prayers!!! Best of luck to you in all of this.

[gizzy32]

BEST OF LUCK you are a kind, caring women. this will work out in the end. take care

[Needhelp59]

OK - Baby is dressed and looks like a doll.  My husband is coming with me.  She has on a purple Osh Kosh Jumper, white blouse, and saddle oxfords.  I curled her long blonde hair and put a big white and purple satin ribbon in the back.  There is a pot roast cooking so when we get home we can have a nice meal.  Then I am hopefully going to have time to take her and all the boys to church tonight. I just want to get their lives into some kind of order.  One of my step nephews called me (2 of these kids have muscular dystrophy) and said they want to be with me and my husband.  I told them of course they can for as long as needed.  Still no sign of my sister.   First things first though - Let's get the ball rolling on the kids.  Then on to her where there are other fish to fry.  I WILL NOT give up on her if it kills me.  I know she will be angry and say horrible things, but once she can think clearly she will have to know this was done with all the love a person can have, and I mean that.  I will try to repost tonight and let you know how it goes.  God bless you all.

[allaboutmary]

I haven't posted to you yet. My heart is breaking for you and I just become speachless.  This is such an awful situation, but you are doing the right thing.  You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[AlessandrasMom]

I don't know how she could turn her own children away, it's heartbreaking.  I'm glad you are trying to cover all the bases, it sounds like you are doing everything you can.  Thank god the children and have you, and that your sister has you to help her right now as well.  I hope she gets the help she needs so desperately to get off of whatever it is she is on.  You have a lot on your plate right now, stay strong and take care.  My thoughts are with you.  Keep us updated.

[gizzy32]

there is nobody that is ready for an intervention, that's why they are a surprise. they are meant for someone that does not want help with their addiction and it purpose it to get them help. i hope her sister does not know this intevention is taking place as when i found out one was planned for me, i bolted cause nobody wants to go to their own intervention

[bmc1976]

So, does that mean your open to babysitting?!!! I'll drop my kids off in a hour!! Just kidding, just trying to give you a bit a laugh because I know you need one. You have many shoulders to cry on. We are all here for you through this very difficult time!

[Flutterby111]

I can't imagine turning away the children...I 'm quitting a fabulous job today to be with my baby because I decided I can't pay someone else to raise my baby....so I just can't fathom it.  God bless you dearheart...you are taking on THE hardest thing I could ever imagine.  I was down that ugly road when I was young, but I had no children, but it was horrid.  We're here for you anytime.....please know that.

[gizzy32]

as bad as this is, you have actually created her bottom here. this is what she needs for hope of seeing she needs some help. it makes me wish i had family that would have cared about me like that when my life fell apart. she is so lucky to have you and she will know that soon as you are helping to save here life here.

[newmanagment]

hon cry all ya need to, but also know that some people dont really care about their children, it sux, its not right, but it is a fact of life. i know , i was free to run all i wanted , and look where it got me. im guessing you wont have to file after you talk to SS. they will probably bring in the police and have you turn in drugs. like bmc said, DO NOT TAKE  them with you. they are illegal and you can be charged. leave em at home , they will send an officer to collect them. intervention is nice, but in reality i dont think your sis is ready for that yet. i think that what you are doing now may enable her to open her eyes and see her mistakes, then an intervention may work. right now i think SS will probably give you temp. custody, and file charges on her for her actions. it is gonna be rough, just stay strong and let her know that you are doing this for the baby and HER.
Make sure you tell them about the father knowing and still leaving that baby with her, otherwise they may turn baby over to him. and im with Gizzy on this, with that many drugs, pipes, baggies, etc. laying around it would be hard for him to miss. still prayin, watching , and waiting, right along with ya....

[Needhelp59]

My sister has not called - it sounds like she might be in a frenzy looking for her missing stash (uhm, you would think the daughter would come first).  Oh well, what do I know?  (being facetious there). I am going to ask the social worker about how to go about filing charges.  I want to continue with the intervention but she may need the threat of a legal proceeding to make her more open to the suggestion.  i am just trying so hard to cover all the bases - first and foremost the kids, and I do want her to get the help she so desperately needs.  But for now the kids come first.  AND I just found out the other 3 boys real mother will not let them move back in with her?  What the heck is wrong with people?  How can you turn children away - for me that would be any children, but especially your own??  Guess I will go cry again!!@
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[Flutterby111]

You are the ANGEL right now in those kids life....I"m praying so hard for you!!!

[bmc1976]

Well, newmanagement chimed in before me! I knew he would have advice!! I agree about turning the drugs over to the police. That way it is documented and you get them out of your house. You are in possession right now even though they aren't yours. But you want to make sure it's documented. And if your sister knows you have them she might be over looking for them. I'd just hate to see things get stirred up at your house.

[gizzy32]

yes newmanagement, it could be meth and i don't even want to think about that, it just sucks.  this story is heartbreaking cause of the children involved.

we will keep you in our prayers, this is such a tough situation and im still amazed how you have handled all this. ******* drugs.

[bmc1976]

I don't think I would take the drugs with you. You having them is somewhat illegal even though they are not yours. I would just tell them about it before offering to show them. Maybe talk to them about what you should do with them. Ask them if you need to keep them for evidence or get rid of them. I'm sure they have dealt with this before. You may have to turn them over to the local police department. Maybe you could call the local police and ask them what to do. Not sure though. I'm sure Social Services will inform you on what to do. Maybe newmanagement will have some better ideas on what to do. He always seems to have great advice! Just remember, you are doing the right thing. The day will come to where your sis will thank you for everything. You are saving her life.

[newmanagment]

Giz- im guessing meth here ,with the homemade pipes and all. as for the drugs. i would keep em for now, you may need to turn them in and tell them where you found them in the house to help get that angel out of there. i know you dont want to here this, but i would call the police right now, turn over the drugs, press charges, and file an OOP!! it sux, i hate even typing it, but it is what my gut is tellin me right now. I think it is saying that because i just finished playing candyland with my daughter and put her down for her nap, my boy is at school. if ya dont want to file a complaint, still keep the drugs, dcfs may want them to pursue their own case. IM SORRY that you are going thru this, even harder for me cuz  i put my family thru kinda the same stuff. please keep us posted , as i am very caught up in this now. im praying for you, keep your chin up and do what you MUST do.... much love

[AlessandrasMom]

I'm not sure on that question about bringing the drugs with you, hopefully someone can advise you better on that.  I'm so happy to hear that that little girl is happy right now, playing games, playing with your dog (I have 2 labs and they are wonderful with children).
Has your sister tried to call you since she went back home, does she know where her little girl is at?  Best of luck to you at Social Services, please keep us advised.  Praying for you and your niece.