I am very very embarrassed by this and ashamed, but I think this is a good thing to get off my chest.
I've been struggling with anxiety now sense last October. Came out of nowhere...
I keep trying to blame things for it while I'm taking anti-depressants... and telling myself after I feel better it won't come back... and continue my daily routines.
I've been doing some research, spiritually...
For as long as I can remember, as a man, I've always loved sex! What man doesn't love sex?
I've been married for 3 years now, and my wife and I started out having a very great sex life.
Very intimate... very active...
After we got married, the sex life was still great.. but then we had a child, and the sex kind of went down hill.
Well, for as long as I can remember, even before my wife and I got married, I looked at pornography a lot on the internet. (Just basic, nothing illegal. lol.)
I've also continued this throughout our marriage. I'm not saying I'm an ADDICT by all means.
And it's a big secret. I've never told my wife this.
But sense our love life is completely gone, I mean, we do not have sex at all!!!
I understand b/c my wife is tired a lot, and we have 1 year old child together, but shouldn't she still want to have sex? She doesn't!
Our marriage, now that I think about it, is not the best! We love each other! So much! But we don't show it in a healthy way. Even when we are nice to each other, we call each other mean things... and say demeaning things, jokingly,... but now that I think about it... this is not good... this is destructive I think.
Well, I've been noticing that I probably look at pornography 4 hours per week on average. THAT'S ALOT! And it's only when my wife and kid are gone of course. And it's b/c it's a quick fix... b/c my wife and I do not have sex.
I know sex is important in a marriage. It's a beautiful thing... but looking at pornography is just as bad as a drug I'm discovering!
My wife is out of town, and I called her tonight... and told her that I want our family to be on the RIGHT PATH. I told her how much I love her... and how much I lust for her.. and how I feel SO BAD that I lust for her... and I dont want to lust for her! I want to love her! I don't want us to call each other bad demeaning things... I told her that I want to be the Spiritual leader in the family. It's my duty. God is missing. God needs to be in our home, and in our hearts!
I was reading some scripture... and Satan LIES! Pornography... and lust.. are quick fixes... and can cause psychological damage!
Maybe this is a piece to my anxiety puzzle?
I'm going to ask God tonight to forgive me for all of my sins... and I just want to welcome him into my heart.
I want to follow in his footprints.
I know if we all follow God, he will give us peace. He wants us to have this PEACE! And no worries! And NO ANXIETIES!
I am a Christian, but I have fallen off the dark path to destruction I feel. Satan wants me to have anxiety.
And my anxiety always sits in my stomach... a worryful stomach.... maybe this feeling is guilt? fear?
Thank you all for listening...
Getting this off my chest... feels GREAT!
I've got a new life coming! =)