Having doubts....

[Sexybare]

Having doubts about my surgery this aug. I know I need it, but I do almost everything around home to take care of things that need to be done. Im afraid im gonna have to do it all after, like last time. Think im gonna have a hard time. I have 2 dogs that need to go out every couple hours and kittens and 2 boys. I will be home most of day by myself and dont know how im gonna figure things out. Im thinking of havin someone come to house and help. Maybe but dont know who. As you may remember last surgery my bf crashed quad and ended up me takin care of everyone 11 days post op til now.i had no recovery time. And im still doin 95% of things now. Im scared im not gonna get the recovery time I need again. Any suggestions please!!!!!

[irislita]

yes u DO need surgery...I am so hopeful u will feel a grat different...hugs dana

[cash242]

Yeah! That is awesome I truly believe if you start the routine now it won't be out of routine. I am sure that they want you back and that can only happen if you heal. Let me know how it goes and take care.

[selmaS]

  So glad to hear they r all pulling together to help u...and u will have to speak up and not do nething even if u feel like u can, take the time and use it, do not do nething too soon regardless of how good u may feel, it may be just the thing to knock u back down.

Good luck <3

[Sexybare]

The list of daily duties is in the making. Love your ideas. I had the talk with everyone and I have already started my bf doin most the day to day chores. Boys are on vac in florida with my parents for a week and im missin them like crazy and theyve only been gone 2 days. My mom lives half a mile away and says im doin the recovert thinf right this time. She says im just gonna have to let the housework go and others will do it. Hubby also agreed no quad til im better so hes not hurt this time. Thank god, people are finally getting it around here. He says he cant read my mind so I mighr have to tell him what I need done, thats where your list will come in handy. Thank you soo much for the advice. I DO NEED THIS SURGERY!!!!

[cash242]

Hey friend you have to have this surgery, I promise to be there when your at hospital, I wish also I could do more. One thing you might try is a trial run of how things will be like having your bf and 2 boys taking care of things make a list of what they need to do. I know when my husband took over the month after he was amazed how much I had done! If you start it now maybe it would help? Because in all honesty you need that now. Hang in there.....shannon

[Viva001]

A friend told me just today that I'd be in the looney bin if I didn't have a sense of humor.
I've been very frustrated with the DH (can't he smell the litter box?!), so we've been thinking of things to do with him--sell him to medical science, put him in a zoo, etc.  lol.  Any suggestions appreciated!

I send him emails to his office down the hall, so that I don't have to keep telling him to look at "the list".  I think my voice is like a dog whistle to him.

It's really hard to recover when the house is a disaster, & you're stuck looking at it day & night.

[irislita]

viva...u r so truly direct...I often have a smile upon my face from ur expressions...hahahaaaaa
Oh dana the worse is def to áctually worry about post op things. I can only tell u I didnt have to do a thing the first months at home and I couldnt!!! How about ur parents do they live close??? U do need to get recovery as otherwhise ur healing will take so much longer. wish I could help u also...but try to get help please...big  hugs

[Viva001]

My sympathies!  Just like any other vagina-endowed person, I do a lot!   I have taken back all the pet related duties & many of the other ones, but I really wish I could just rest my mind and body.
My dog is Really getting on my nerves, so I'm glad that I don't have kids.  (at least kids don't bark though!).

I still don't have much of an appetite, so at least I don't have to cook.

Best of luck!  I would have lists for everyone (can everyone read?  My DH can, but even so, I had to keep pointing to "the list"), and try to make life as easy for yourself as possible.   I hope you get some help.  

[actressmouse]

I can so relate to how you are feeling.  I am 3 weeks post op (1st surgery) and I was in a world of hurt yesterday.  To top it off, everyone, (2 teenaged boys and hubby) decided to "do their own thing" and I was kinda left to myself.  Well, when hubby got home, I unloaded and told him that today's happenings were the exact reason that I was second guessing my surgery.  I, also, do everything....house, bills, shopping, lawn care, work full time....you get the picture.  Having the "heart to heart" talk helped, and today....poof!! everyone's pitching in.   So, by all means, have the talk...and arrange a back up plan "just in case".  I scheduled all bills ahead of time (including my Dad's Nursing Home bill payments, etc.).  I feel much better today.  It's truly a "day by day" recovery.  I wish you wisdom in your decision making.  

[selmaS]

  If I knew where Chiariville was I would move there now !!!

Not bcuz I love Chiari, but it would have me closer to all of u <3

U all r so amazing : )

[Rylanesmom]

It would be so nice if we all lived close:)

[Rahe28]

Like Selma, I am always blown away at the support this team offers. I often refer to you all  as team MH to my family and friends. Linnie~ that has to be one of the kindest things I have ever seen from someone to another. What a dear you are.

As far as you go sexybare, I agree with tthe rest of them. I am going through this right now. I am a little over a month post op and have been helpless other than what my DH and eldest (7) son offer and do. I have been since I was a week post op. It is not fun, it hurts, and your struggle with your pain so much more than those who are helped. Make sure this time you set up your time to be down, and that those around you understand....it is not an option, but a necessity that this go around you do it right and get the rest you need. I have been doing everything right down to steamcleaning carpets, and I would hate to see you in my position, or back in the situation you are now. Best wishes my dear....I think we should all live in Chiariville....a gated community...you can't come in if you don't know why we don't use florescent lights...lol

[Sexybare]

You are such a sweetheart. I appreciate your offer, but I live to far from you. Im gonna make a plan where someone is here with me for most of he day, even if I have to pay a nurse or home health person. But I am doin this right this time. I love you all here in our chiarian family. Wish we could all live in our own lil community lol.

[selmaS]

  What a sweetheart !!! WOW, I love this forum and how we truly do work as a family <3

[linnielou232]

I just asked my DH how far away you are from me and he said around 4 hrs.  If you need someone to come help.  I would offer the help.  You shouldn't do this alone.  I know how hard having a 2nd surgery.  I'm here if you need anything.  Your not alone my dear Chairan family sis.
Linda :)

[goladene]

I too am worried to schedule surgery more for that reason than anything.  I pay the bills, do all the errands, take care of the kids, etc.  I have a wonderful and loving husband but he also works nights and sleeps during the day.

Get the extra help lined up but my advice is do what I have done.  Please sit him down and go over all of your needs and concerns and come up with a plan.  And stress what Selma says as you don't want a third surgery.  My prayers are with you.

[selmaS]

  Mayb u can point out u r having a 2nd surgery and if u had the right rest time post op the first time u may not be going in for a 2nd....may not be the whole truth, but it may get them to knuckle down and do their part.....do ask for xtra help, do not be at home alone the first week or 2....it is important u take it slow and easy post op.