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my niece wants me to get on abilify to enhance my effexors does anyone know anything about this drug. I know my niece is on it or has been on it. I don't know what to do. I am going to stick around and bug you guys somemore. besides it would be too lonesome without you all. mandy876
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i am on effexor 225mg. and have been for years, my doctor added ability and once it got into my system i was worse, so i started with half a pill, it was a little better but my crying was increased from when i just took Effexor, so i took it half for a couple of months and no improvement, so i dropped it all together.
Hi Mandy. I think I remember you saying you take 75 mgs of Effexor. It could be time for an increase, or, to try a different med. Honestly, if it were me I would go for a different med unless you've already tried all the others out there. Just my opinion. I took Effexor myself for 5 years and it made me very tired almost all the time. So, it could be that you either need an increase, try Abilify along with Effexor, or try another med. You know we're all here to support you through any changes you decide to make.
I have been on Effexor for about 5 years he increased it last year. it just seem to be working as good. I never tried any other meds. that was my doctors first choice. mandy876
Okay, if you've never tried any other meds if I were you I would try something else. You've already had a dose increase and it's not helping much. I'm really not sure if adding Abilify is a good idea or not. It's something I've never tried myself.
You do know that Effexor is an antidepressant of course but it's in a different class than other antidepressants. I'm wondering if you should try an SSRI like Celexa, Lexapro, Zoloft?
I do know that's it's very frustrating when your med is just not working like you want it to and you're not sure what steps to take next.
It's all up to you and we will be here to support you through any changes you make.
You do know that Effexor is an antidepressant of course but it's in a different class than other antidepressants. I'm wondering if you should try an SSRI like Celexa, Lexapro, Zoloft?
I do know that's it's very frustrating when your med is just not working like you want it to and you're not sure what steps to take next.
It's all up to you and we will be here to support you through any changes you make.
my doctor if off this week I have an appointment Monday. I will see what he recommends. my niece has been on every pill you can need that they have. she will not get off the Effexor. she said she know that is what keeps her going. she tried when she was young suicide. several times. they did put her in the hospital but never gave her any anti depressants. she got on them after she got married and had 3 kids. she learned she could get control of her feelings. she got divorced he beat the kids with a belt. the oldest he hit with the buckle. she came to me next day. I hugged her daughter. she started crying. she said look at her back. I started crying and could not believe he would do anything like. she had black bruises all over her back. the second from oldest had a few. the baby he did not hit as hard she only had a little bruise. she went to the police and they took pictures. they were going to arrest him. she said no just get him out. they were not happy. but the sheriff came out the that evening and he told him he had to be out by 6:00pm. he told the officer that he had to get her car running. the sheriff sat at the end of the street watching him. when it neared 6;00 he came back and told him time to go. he left he had been cheating on her all along. just not a good husband or father. she has gone through a lot in her life. now her mom does not want to see her. I told her no matter what I will be here for her she does not have to worry no matter what I will love her. it as hard at first. her being bi polar along wih her depression. but we have reached a comfort level. think she knows I will be here until god takes me. I don't no what I would do with out her. mandy876
Regarding your antidepressants and any other medications, it is up to your doctor to decide what is the right thing for you to take.
You should listen and be guided by your doctor. If you feel the medications that you are on are not working for you, you must tell the doctor so that he can either put you on a different medication, increase the dose of this one, or prescribe another one to take with the one you have.
If it helps you not to forget, write down the points that you wish to discuss with the doctor on Monday.
Best wishes.
You should listen and be guided by your doctor. If you feel the medications that you are on are not working for you, you must tell the doctor so that he can either put you on a different medication, increase the dose of this one, or prescribe another one to take with the one you have.
If it helps you not to forget, write down the points that you wish to discuss with the doctor on Monday.
Best wishes.
I am supposed to go Monday. the Effexor I am afraid to get off it. you don't know how it was before they put me on it. everything around here is always a problem. our water bill was extremely high. I told her to call he yard sprinkler system man to come and see if we have a leak. she said I forgot to tell you the back faucet will not turn off. then I told her daughter her insurance was due. she said maybe I could pay it until they get on their feet. my niece her mom called her tonight to tell her that her boy friend was going to have to pay the bill. she said I know she already called and told her, I have not talked to her at all. I e mailed her said your insurance is due july 28. that is all I said. she wrote me back and said I will pay you back soon as we can but will you pay it and we will pay you back. she out of 7 years has paid 300.oo at the most her insurance runs 428.00 every 6 months. her mother was the one saying not to pay ir she would not let me. then she goes along with her daughter that I called her. I am so mad at both of the,. I got to getaway from I cant take people lieing to me. I dont think I will go to the doctor. why should I the only ones I care about just twisted what I said around. can you understand why I cant get control of my nerves. it want do any good living under all this pressure. I am sick and I am going to take a stupid pain pill and hope itknocks me out. I just want to crawl in a hole some where. oh by theway her not telling me the ater was leaking my water bill was about 70.00 higher. I don't have mo ey like that to throw away.
they cut me off I did not finish. they just keep spending money like we have a money tree. I don't that is why me and my hubby had a savings for us to live on when we got old. it is not right. I am shaking I don't like anyone try to make a liar out of me. she would not let me read the e mail to her. wewilla quiet few days. I will stay in my room. why cant god just take me. I am so tired of all this. mandy876
They can only keep spending your money if you give it to them. It's up to you.
Make sure you go to your doctor appointment on Monday. The doctor can help you with your severe depression which is what makes you so tired and not able to cope well. Promise that you will go.
Make sure you go to your doctor appointment on Monday. The doctor can help you with your severe depression which is what makes you so tired and not able to cope well. Promise that you will go.
I don't know I am mad at my niece and would not ask her for any thing. she told me she was going to call her daughter and tell her we could not pay for her insurance. when she called her she turned it around and said I did not want to pay for her insurance instead of we. then she said her daughter she had already talked to me and I told her she would have to pay. I have not talked to her. I wrote her a note and told her the insurance ended july 28. she wrote me back and asked me to pay. I tried to read what she wrote to me and she would not listen. I left the room and have stayed in my room. they always stick together. they turn everything around and make it my fault. this goes on all the time. I am sick of it. my moms inheritance is tied up in a CD cant be touched for another 5 years, mine is getting low but still ok if we quit spending . I am just tired. I will try to go just for you. love mandy876
Mandy, you stick to your guns and don't let any of them touch your money.
They need to learn that they have to earn it to spend it. No matter how much you help them financially, they will always want more.
I have my own grown up children, when they are broke or want to borrow money, we draw up a contract and I also charge them interest that would be still a lower interest than the bank charges for a loan. That way everyone's a winner (apart from the bank). It also teaches them the value of money.
You said earlier in one of your previous posts that you told your niece that you will always help her. Help does not have to be in a financial form. And you are helping her by allowing her to live with you. I hope that she is paying her way.
You are very low at this moment in time and when we are feeling so low, we are vulnerable. I have been where you are at the moment and I know things are difficult for you right now and you feel tired.
Keep the appointment and see the doctor on Monday. Do this for you. The doctor can only do so much. But he cannot help you if you do not tell him how you are feeling.
Because you are feeling so tired, although depression and stress can make you feel very tired, so too can blood disorders. As you have not been eating well (as you mentioned in a previous post), it is highly likely that your iron and Vitamin B12 levels are too low. The doctor can do blood tests to check for this and put you on the right medications.
Let me know how you get on with the doctor.
Best wishes.
They need to learn that they have to earn it to spend it. No matter how much you help them financially, they will always want more.
I have my own grown up children, when they are broke or want to borrow money, we draw up a contract and I also charge them interest that would be still a lower interest than the bank charges for a loan. That way everyone's a winner (apart from the bank). It also teaches them the value of money.
You said earlier in one of your previous posts that you told your niece that you will always help her. Help does not have to be in a financial form. And you are helping her by allowing her to live with you. I hope that she is paying her way.
You are very low at this moment in time and when we are feeling so low, we are vulnerable. I have been where you are at the moment and I know things are difficult for you right now and you feel tired.
Keep the appointment and see the doctor on Monday. Do this for you. The doctor can only do so much. But he cannot help you if you do not tell him how you are feeling.
Because you are feeling so tired, although depression and stress can make you feel very tired, so too can blood disorders. As you have not been eating well (as you mentioned in a previous post), it is highly likely that your iron and Vitamin B12 levels are too low. The doctor can do blood tests to check for this and put you on the right medications.
Let me know how you get on with the doctor.
Best wishes.
my niece has bi polar manic depression. she got fired from her job because she cussed some one out, she can not get a job. she can not control her mouth or feelings. she has applied for SSI we have not heard from them. they would not let her have unemployment. the way she was fired was not acceptable. she has been paying a lot on her own. she had an IRA and if she gets SSI she can have no money in a bank. she has been buying our lunch some and I buy it some. we fix our own meals at home. her mom is my sister. How can a mother turn her back on her own child that has problems. I can not under stand her she was not raised hat way. I am leaving my home to her. so I want have to worry about her. she has no one. she made some really nice friends where she did work. they all want her to come back. the district manager said she could come back in a year. she gets so bored. I will go to the doctor. just as long as I know I have some one who cares about me. love mandy876
The year will soon fly by and hopefully your niece will get her job back.
She could of course, write a letter of apology and ask to be taken back sooner. It's always worth having a go.
It is very stressful to lose a job no matter what the circumstances. And that will make her depression worse.
It is very good of you to be caring for your niece.
I am sure that your niece cares for you a lot, even if she does not show it. Some people find it very difficult to express openly how they feel.
And we all, on this forum care too, otherwise none of use would be writing to you to help you through your rough patch.
Best wishes Mandy.
She could of course, write a letter of apology and ask to be taken back sooner. It's always worth having a go.
It is very stressful to lose a job no matter what the circumstances. And that will make her depression worse.
It is very good of you to be caring for your niece.
I am sure that your niece cares for you a lot, even if she does not show it. Some people find it very difficult to express openly how they feel.
And we all, on this forum care too, otherwise none of use would be writing to you to help you through your rough patch.
Best wishes Mandy.
I know she loves me. she just does not know how to show it other than do you want a vanilla shake. I know she cares. if not she would not care.. I got her to worrying about money. she is not eating right either. that makes it hard on me some times. we were supposed to go to the lake with her sister next time they went/ they went today. they never called. oh well we could not have gone her arm has not completely healed. oh I love to work crossword puzzles too. the doctor who operated on my cataracts made a mistake I can not see up close at all. I miss that I have always been able to see up close. I cant use my eyes to much they start watering. and everything gets blurred. your friend mandy876
Why don't you give your niece a hug and kiss or just touch her hand from time to time? It sounds like the both of you need to show each other that you do care. We all need to be touched to feel the warmth of another person.
Well I have not had any operations on my eyes. My vision has got worse over the years. I cannot see close up without glasses. I have to have a pair of reading glasses to read; A pair of glasses to see the computer screen; and a different pair of glasses to be able to see distance objects and when I drive. It is quite funny though when people push things into my face when I say I can't see something. Then I say, I see it worse the closer it gets.
Cataract operations do not correct vision problems. Think of it like looking through a dirty window and the doctor put in a new window for you. If you can't see close up work, you need to see an ophthalmologist to check your eyesight and get prescription glasses or your can buy magnifying lenses.
If your eyes are water a lot, it may be that you have a blocked tear duct. You can tell your doctor about that when you see him on Monday.
My eyes felt sore and started watering tonight, I think it was an allergy to something.
Best wishes.
Well I have not had any operations on my eyes. My vision has got worse over the years. I cannot see close up without glasses. I have to have a pair of reading glasses to read; A pair of glasses to see the computer screen; and a different pair of glasses to be able to see distance objects and when I drive. It is quite funny though when people push things into my face when I say I can't see something. Then I say, I see it worse the closer it gets.
Cataract operations do not correct vision problems. Think of it like looking through a dirty window and the doctor put in a new window for you. If you can't see close up work, you need to see an ophthalmologist to check your eyesight and get prescription glasses or your can buy magnifying lenses.
If your eyes are water a lot, it may be that you have a blocked tear duct. You can tell your doctor about that when you see him on Monday.
My eyes felt sore and started watering tonight, I think it was an allergy to something.
Best wishes.
I have a friendly request.
You have multiple threads going, which are all being posted to frequently. What happens is that your threads remain near the top, and others get bumped down.
It would be great if you could try to stick to one thread when you're discussing the same things (just stuff about life). Obviously, starting a thread asking about a med is perfectly fine, but the majority of your replies have just been about other things...then your other threads get bumped with similar discussions. It really does help cut down on confusion to keep all the similar discussions to one thread...plus it minimizes other OP's threads from getting bumped down the page, sometimes before anyone has had a chance to answer.
Thanks for your understanding! It's appreciated.
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You have multiple threads going, which are all being posted to frequently. What happens is that your threads remain near the top, and others get bumped down.
It would be great if you could try to stick to one thread when you're discussing the same things (just stuff about life). Obviously, starting a thread asking about a med is perfectly fine, but the majority of your replies have just been about other things...then your other threads get bumped with similar discussions. It really does help cut down on confusion to keep all the similar discussions to one thread...plus it minimizes other OP's threads from getting bumped down the page, sometimes before anyone has had a chance to answer.
Thanks for your understanding! It's appreciated.
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I'm so glad that you will be keeping your doctor appt. It is for you. And be sure to tell the doctor the kinds of things that you have written here, like how you wish you would die. That's very important. Also talk about any other problems that you have. Let me know how the appointment goes and what the doctor recommended to you. Good luck.
Your friend,
Sara
Your friend,
Sara
I have no idea what you are talking about. who am I bumping. I cant help it if people answer my question. am I suppose to say I have a problem. I would like an answer to. please don't answer me because nurse girl does not want you to. just say in straight words what you want from me. you got me confused. what or OP threads. mandy876
You misunderstood. I'm saying you have three active threads that are basically all the same (or very similar) conversations. Every time a person replies to those multiple threads, they stay on top and "bump" down the other threads on the page. All I'm asking is for you to try to keep the same conversation to one thread when possible, so you don't have three active threads on the top. I'm not discouraging anyone from replying to your posts.
Mandy, what nursegirl6572 is saying, is that you have 3 questions posted going on at the same time with regard to your one problem. It is actually MedHelp Policy to only have one posting with regard to a question and not multiple postings with the same question.
For some reason, this is not your fault, it is MedHelp IT problem, that every time we communicate, I get 16 notifications in my Watch List of the same thing. I have informed the moderator about this. sometimes they correct it and it drops to 2 or 3 on most Watches (not just yours), then it goes back up again.
Hope that makes it more clear for you to understand.
Best wishes
For some reason, this is not your fault, it is MedHelp IT problem, that every time we communicate, I get 16 notifications in my Watch List of the same thing. I have informed the moderator about this. sometimes they correct it and it drops to 2 or 3 on most Watches (not just yours), then it goes back up again.
Hope that makes it more clear for you to understand.
Best wishes
It's not that anyone does not like you. It's kind of a rule we have here at Medhelp. If all of us have several posts going about the same subject then other members won't be able to post their questions too.
How about we keep one of your posts open and comment on that one?
All of us do care about you and we're here to listen and help you anyway we can. Please don't take this personally because it's a rule for all of us members.
How about we keep one of your posts open and comment on that one?
All of us do care about you and we're here to listen and help you anyway we can. Please don't take this personally because it's a rule for all of us members.
Mandy, nursegirl6572 is a Community Leader in the Depression Community and that is why she has a little pink flower next to her name.
Community Leaders are MedHelp members who act like ambassadors to MedHelp, helping to communicate the feedback from the community as well as help us communicate back to the community from MedHelp. Their job is to ensure things are running smoothly and MedHelp policies are followed.
You are not the only person to have posted more than one post on the same subject. It is nothing to do with being liked or not liked.
The rules are written down in the MedHelp Policy and it is up to each member to read and understand the Policy for using MedHelp.
Hope that explains things better for you.
Best wishes.
Community Leaders are MedHelp members who act like ambassadors to MedHelp, helping to communicate the feedback from the community as well as help us communicate back to the community from MedHelp. Their job is to ensure things are running smoothly and MedHelp policies are followed.
You are not the only person to have posted more than one post on the same subject. It is nothing to do with being liked or not liked.
The rules are written down in the MedHelp Policy and it is up to each member to read and understand the Policy for using MedHelp.
Hope that explains things better for you.
Best wishes.
i went to the doctor he doubled my effexor. then i go bac k in 3 months for a follow up. my niece told him about me writing to you all. he said it was not good for me. he suggested i quit. my niece thought it would be a good idea. so i guess this is a real goodbye. i found you to be a sweet friend. i will miss you. i cant drink my rootbeers any more i can only have water. i cant stay in my room any more.i cant remember all the stuff.. i am so upset. mandy876
I am very pleased to hear that you did go to see your doctor and that he has doubled your Effexor. Hope they work for you.
Well I don't know how much time you have been spending on the computer writing to people, but if it was taking up your day and you did not do anything else, then yes it is a good idea to cut down the time you spend on the computer and engage in doing other things.
Hope the doctor sends you for counselling too.
Hope you get on OK and things start to improve for you soon.
Remember to think of the good and nice things that put a smile on your face.
Best wishes Mandy.
Well I don't know how much time you have been spending on the computer writing to people, but if it was taking up your day and you did not do anything else, then yes it is a good idea to cut down the time you spend on the computer and engage in doing other things.
Hope the doctor sends you for counselling too.
Hope you get on OK and things start to improve for you soon.
Remember to think of the good and nice things that put a smile on your face.
Best wishes Mandy.
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