So confused and just disappointed

Maybe it's since I've just been diagnosed with HSV-2, that I'm focusing on all the negative.  I keep trying to educate myself and convince myself that life WILL go on, just with certain changes.  The positive points.  But I just can't wrap my idea around the idea that my future husband and I could choose to have a baby and that one time we have unprotected sex, he has a good chance of contracting herpes from me.  That I could infect my future children.  That almost every sexual act is a huge risk to my partner.  Like I am this cess pool of virus.  It's almost as if because I had unprotected sex, even once, that I shouldn't have sex again.  Ever.  I may sound like I'm in the midst of wallowing in my self- pity, and should just be left alone.  But please understand, that I'm just trying to UNDERSTAND what this virus means for my life.  My above comments, are fears.  So, if someone could PLEASE explain these things to me, I'd be GREATLY appreciative.  I've accepted I have the virus; it's just thinking of someone else accepting it as well, and wanting and BEING ABLE to be intimate with me, that confuses me.  And disappoints me, from what I'm reading online.

[gracefromHHP]

have you read the free herpes handbook yet? the link is in our read before posting post on the forum as well as if you google it, it comes right up. It's filled with terrific information on herpes . I also recommend the patient counseling video on the same site too.

So can you have unprotected sex and not transmit your genital herpes? Well heck yeah!! if you have a hsv2 negative male partner, do nothing but avoid sex anytime you have anything going on genitally, he is 96% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from you. if you take daily suppressive therapy ( which you can do while trying to become pregnant too ), he is 98% likely each year not to contract hsv2 from you. Throw in condoms too and it's 99% likely each year that he won't contract hsv2 from you.  to give you something to compare it to, real use of the birth control pill results in 8% of women taking it each year becoming pregnant. So you are more likely to become pregnant while on the pill than you are to transmit your hsv2 to a partner if you are aware of your infection and take even the simplest of precautions!

How were you diagnosed as having hsv2?  Did you have symptoms or just a routine screening?

keep asking questions :)

grace