Hi everyone I've been dealing with the same exact thing as many of the commenters have. I'm 20 years old and a college student. A little bit of background. I had been yankin the hang low daily, at times more than once in day. Like everyone else I felt 'at ease,' after having done so. In retrospect; too at ease. This self stimulating habit was coupled with porn during most occasions. After having finished with the use of porn, I felt not only relieved sexually but in its place I felt depressed and 'hollow.' During this time frame of habitual yankin I had to motivation, wasn't happy, no urge to meet women i.e. too nervous and ashamed to approach women.

I've decided to tackle this head on for good and have been. I feel way more motivated and have a genuine feeling of ease and confidence in myself. Now, the sexual tension is present no question. Though I simply utilize and embrace it for what it is and that is, a challenge. The differences between yankin it daily to not doing it at all are palpable. I enjoy the tease that comes from seeing an attractive woman because it reminds of why I'm abstaining in the first place and that is because while yankin it like a mad dog I never really got wound when I saw said woman. Its refreshing to see a real life, living, breathing woman at grocery store purchasing cereal and get turned on haha. Being dependent on any one thing for satisfaction broke me down; though abstaining from that very thing, well, will build you right back up.

Now with all this being said; everyone needs to find their 'trigger,' their wake up call if you will. For me it was coming to the understanding that masturbation may not be necessarily 'normal.' Now before you turn away, take from this what you can and want. I had come across this article written by Marina Robinson that served as my 'trigger'.

Here's the link:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/201105/weird-masturbation-habits

It's made me really grasp just how strange something considered 'normal' may really be; I found it very humbling and am running with it. Maybe you will to.

Haven't posted on here for a while.  Just wanted to report that once again, I haven't masturbated or had sex for 27 days.  Haven't really noticed any effects from the abstinence yet.  Had one wet dream which occurred after getting my 20th clean day.

The post above by SpanishTrampoline is a little concerning in that he developed prostate problems possibly due to his abstinence.  I am hoping to get sex soon though (just not with prostitutes as I've had enough of paying for it).

Unlike my period of abstinence last time early last year, I haven't been abstaining from watching porn though.  It's an activity I enjoy although I don't watch that much (just basically collect a lot of overpriced DVDs!).

I have read your post. Some post has given me a strong will to stop the masturbation Addiction and some did not but i would like you guys to best of luck and try to stopped it.

I'm here because Im addicted to masturbation and porn as well. I could stop watching porn or not to masturbate for a long time. It is that im just to scared to stop masturbating. Because 3 years back i was working at the grocery store at night. And those days when i had decided to stop the masturbation and watching porn. And i decided to stop it now. I was so happy that i could make it. But right after 3 week while on stopping my habit, i was standing, working happily at the store suddenly i start feeling dizzy, and my heart rate went up and i got scared so much. I could not breath and start having a panic attack. I feel like Im going to die. My heart rate was so high. Since that im scared to stop masturbating. Although at that time i was taking a medication for my heart palpitation as well. After that incident i went to the doctor and they have told me that i did not took a medication and that was a cause of dizziness, and panic attack. Now it is been 2 years. I have stopped taking medication for my heart palpitation and feeling much much better then before. But my only concern that. If i stopped masturbation, will i have that be feeling of dizziness, heart rate or panic attack? Or am i thinking too much.

I want you guys to tell me for those who have been stopped masturbating for 1 or 2 month.did you guys have any hard time or difficulty like feeling of dizziness or something else. If it is please share it. I need answer.

I am 63 and have been a chronic masturbator all my life starting at 11 before I could even ejaculate.  I had a healthy sex life in college and married very young at 21 and am still married to the same lady many years later.  We have not had sex or touched in probably 15 to 20 years.  I detest her smoking and her dislike for sex. We had kids quite late 35 and 42 so our daughter is just graduating college.  I have had a serious addiction to porno for easily 35 years and my fetishes have gotten more finite with each passing year.  I love big ****, red lips and nails and watching a womans vagina close up.  I found this website about a month ago and have since quite masturbating for a week but have fallen short each Sat and returned to the live porno models for my fetishes.  I did experience a renewed rational interest toward normal women and even looking at my wife differently but reverted to my porno for satisfaction.  I had radiation and seed implantation for prostate cancer, stage one, and now have dry ejaculation but have recovered to defeat the cancer.  I also have the genetic flaw of bph so it further complicates my urinating and sexual performance.  I am very active and play tennis five times a week.  I am not happy emotionally with my marriage and want to be single again, not for sexual reasons, but for my own freedom and doing things that I want to do.  We have had a very emotionally split relationship for many years and have had to stay together for the children and now that is approaching it finality.  I will retire in three years and really dont care about money but my wife is totally dependent on me for her life.  I would love to be able to quit the porno and masturbation permanently to see if I could return to normal sexual functioning.  I have had NO success with any pill, viagra and all of them but have long ago realized that I have a psychological problem and not a physical one.  Love to hear some feedback from anyone with a similiar situation.  I also joined the man to man prostate cancer support group and was very hahppy with the decision I made for cancer treatment.  bph becomes an increasing problem of greater potentail with age paralleling the frequency of prostate cancer.  I need to quit but am seriously dependent on my columbian ladies on xvideoslive.com............lack the will power to stop.  I do feel better physically when I did stop for a week at a time...........now it is sunday and I am starting all over.  I have an enormous sexual drive and always have had.  I am all ears and waiting for some feedback ...........anyone out there.
thanks

IT is good to hear from some here. First of all you have to find out or share with us your fear, that why you are leaving you habit of masturbation. Since you are 63 and i must say that it is very long time. I Think should have realize every time you try to stop masturbation that what will happen if you stop wont stop you. Like you said that you fell better after 1 week. It is all in our mind. If you go for 3 week or 1 month then you can do it :D

What happen doing mastrubating?

for those who are here and trying to stop masturbating. The first thing i will recommend you guys to find your fear first of not stopping masturbation. If you wont find or wont fight with your fear you will never be able to stop. And i will recommend all of you guys who will or are already commenting. They should tell their problem and it is our job to help each other rather then just telling what happen. I Think thats the best we can do here.

I am 63 and have been a chronic masturbator all my life starting at 11 before I could even ejaculate.  I had a healthy sex life in college and married very young at 21 and am still married to the same lady many years later.  We have not had sex or touched in probably 15 to 20 years.  I detest her smoking and her dislike for sex. We had kids quite late 35 and 42 so our daughter is just graduating college.  I have had a serious addiction to porno for easily 35 years and my fetishes have gotten more finite with each passing year.  I love big ****, red lips and nails and watching a womans vagina close up.  I found this website about a month ago and have since quite masturbating for a week but have fallen short each Sat and returned to the live porno models for my fetishes.  I did experience a renewed rational interest toward normal women and even looking at my wife differently but reverted to my porno for satisfaction.  I had radiation and seed implantation for prostate cancer, stage one, and now have dry ejaculation but have recovered to defeat the cancer.  I also have the genetic flaw of bph so it further complicates my urinating and sexual performance.  I am very active and play tennis five times a week.  I am not happy emotionally with my marriage and want to be single again, not for sexual reasons, but for my own freedom and doing things that I want to do.  We have had a very emotionally split relationship for many years and have had to stay together for the children and now that is approaching it finality.  I will retire in three years and really dont care about money but my wife is totally dependent on me for her life.  I would love to be able to quit the porno and masturbation permanently to see if I could return to normal sexual functioning.  I have had NO success with any pill, viagra and all of them but have long ago realized that I have a psychological problem and not a physical one.  Love to hear some feedback from anyone with a similiar situation.  I also joined the man to man prostate cancer support group and was very hahppy with the decision I made for cancer treatment.  bph becomes an increasing problem of greater potentail with age paralleling the frequency of prostate cancer.  I need to quit but am seriously dependent on my columbian ladies on xvideoslive.com............lack the will power to stop.  I do feel better physically when I did stop for a week at a time...........now it is sunday and I am starting all over.  I have an enormous sexual drive and always have had.  I am all ears and waiting for some feedback ...........anyone out there.
thanks

Hi guys I just read ur comments.............ummm i dunno what to say but i am 13 years old and i masturb daily i know i am doign a sin so i should stop it and never do it again please help me get rid of this habbit i started fo when i saw some videos in my father laptop 3 years back...

Well, I have experienced almost everything in masturbation. I did it at a very early stage when I was 12 year old. I did without watching porno. I have done it for several time a day and I have also tried to not to do it and i was successful for 2 years. I suffered a phase when I tried hard to stop it. I felt guilty during that whole phase. I have tried medication (which I couldn't find exactly and it was embarrassing for a 16 year old). I couldn't focus on my studies and I blamed masturbation for it. I finally stopped it but couldn't find a change in my behavior. However, I just became more shy and less sexual towards girls. I tried not to think of sex or related things. During those 2 years I faced too many wet dreams but they had pattern in my case, i guess the cycle, it had to be in 2 days, 3, 5, 7, 10 or 14 days and the order kept repeating. Couldn't find a medicine to prevent wet dreams as well. Later on I found out that this has given me nothing because many guys whom I considered better than me, even in studies, used to do it. So I picked it up again. This time I used porno as my medium for turning myself. Now I have several fetishes and fantasies. And woah, I'm a virgin as well. Though, its easy for me to get a girl but I just want to be like this. Sex I believe is a holy kinda thing or whatever. May be I am wrong there but I want to experience it like that. I sometimes do it excessively but usually its under my control. I feel that doing it after every 2 days is completely fine for me. I lose a significant amount energy after I get done. And doing it excessively leave me weak. Nowadays I do it when I want to feel special to get over stress or some bad situation or sometime even a good situation. I have had several fantasies over internet and I have almost had them all on net. I feel I am sexually very active person. Sex is the second thing on my mind most of the time. When i see some girl, sex is the obvious thing that hits my mind. Though it depends to some extent upon conditions and situations.
Having said all this, I want to tell you guys a fact that doing exercise really helps. It keeps you busy, utilizes your extra energy, shapes your body and makes you be concerned about it so as not masturbate. Masturbation I believe is a necessary action which helps in normal development of body and regulates the hormones of body which affects the personal behaviour to some extent.
Anyway, I have a problem too. Although, I'm a veyr sexually active person but there is this one girl about whom I can't think of sex. She is as prety as an actress but I still can't think of her in that way. May be I love her or something like that, but, I wonder why I cant have those feelings for her as well.

I'm a male who masturbated at least two or three times a week from ages 16 to 30. Sometimes I looked at porn, other times I just used my imagination. When I turned 22, I also started going to red light districts whenever I had money, because girls would not have sex with an awkward, nerdy runt like me for free. Until I was 30, I felt weaker, dumber, and less capable than other guys. They all seemed strong and fierce and hypercompetent.
I was physically small and thin, pale, with bad posture, hush puppy eyes, and had never played sports. If you put me in a random group of 50 guys, I would be the weakest. I was constantly bullied at my job and on the street by everyone: family, accquaintances, strangers, male, female, young and old. I had no real friends. I was yelled at, shoved, laughed at, called awful names, menaced, sexually humiliated, etc. I was bullied out of two jobs that weren’t even very good to begin with. It was a living hell.
In my late 20s I had stumbled onto a website that advocates complete celibacy for men from a spiritual perspective. This site inspired me to become celibate when I turned 30; I was so wretched that I was willing to give up sex if I could strengthen and evolve myself. I quit masturbating, looking at porn, and visiting prostitutes. I also quit smoking. Then I started weight training, hardcore. I had lifted on and off before this, but never made any progress beyond beginner gains.
In the first couple of months of celibacy, it was hard to restrain myself from masturbating. The first few weeks were the hardest. I took it one day at a time, crossing off each “pure” day on my calendar, considering each 24 hour period an impressive feat. After the first couple of weeks, I felt much less desire to masturbate, and after a couple of months I attained a sort of equilibrium where I had almost no desire to look at porn or masturbate.
In my sixth year of celibacy I fell down, and had sex with several girls I met from chat. On the mornings after I had sex, I would feel this awful emptiness in my lower belly, as if my energy had been drained. My mind would feel sluggish and dull, and in the gym I'd only be able to lift 70 or 80% of what I'd previously been lifting. After each ****, it took me about two weeks of excruciating work to recover my strength levels.
I masturbated two times in those six years because a couple of girls from chat practically begged me to *** on webcam. I found out one of the “girls” was actually a guy. I never felt the urge to masturbate on my own, the idea of doing it seems contemptible to me now. I only had two or three wet dreams a year. I should actually call them “nocturnal emissions” because I never dreamed about sex, I would just feel a buildup in my sex organ (which sometimes wasn’t even erect) like I had to urinate, and semen would come out.
I'm now 37 and have been lifting weights since that day of resolution. I'm usually one of the stronger guys at the gym. I gained 13 kg (muscle and some fat). I never took steroids or even prohormones. I'm in the best shape of my life and I look younger than I did ten years ago, younger but at the same time more manly. When I don't wear my glasses, I get looks of interest from girls in their 20s. I still have a long way to go before I can really call myself “strong”, but I know I will get to that level.
Emotionally, I think I’ve learned what “passion” and “burning desire” really mean. I can actually feel the hot, built-up sexual desire roiling in my lower belly, desperate to come out as sex or aggression. It’s like a savage beast inside me giving me anger, power, and maybe even an aura, like the auras around martial artists you see in Japanese comic books. When I’m around others, especially women, I try hard to keep that energy inside myself (a grown man’s raw, urgent sexual desire is obviously embarrasing in the workplace, public transportation, and restaurants) but I think people can sense it.
I'm not afraid of conflict anymore. Even if someone is bigger and stronger than I am, I can look them in the eye and stand up to them. Why? Because I have more anger and self-control than he does; he probably masturbated or had sex his wife or girlfriend a few days ago. In fact, the bigger and more successful he is, the more likely it is he had sex recently. Also, I feel strong enough to endure any abuse that I’m able to  inflict on others. I'd rather be beaten up, shot, stabbed, maimed, imprisoned, or killed than be a timid sheep like I was in my youth.
My mind is more active, I learn things faster, and I’m confident that I can learn and master anything if I put in the effort. Formerly, although I liked to read novels, I had been a slow learner and wasn’t able to concentrate for more than 10 or 15 minutes at a time. I grew up in poverty and ignorance while seeing rich people enjoy wealth and status, but now I know I can achieve wealth. I’m reading business books and I get new business ideas frequently.
I've decided to resume my vow of celibacy for the rest of my life. This time I’m dead serious; I will tattoo “shoot me if I have sex” on my forehead if I have to. The abuse and rejections I underwent in my youth have made me wary of conventional relationships, and people in general. I believe any improvement in my life has been due to saving my sexual energy and using it for constructive purposes. I will continue my weight training and also take up judo or brazilian jiujitsu and get a black belt in five years.
Based on the foundation of celibacy, I’m submitting myself to further disciplines and austerities that are almost as challenging and radical; such as waking up at 5 am, doing 108 bows every morning, meditating at least one hour a day, vowing nonviolence, and being vegan. I believe these practices will channel the unruly sex energy into spiritual development. After an unhappy childhood and youth, I feel my real life is just beginning.

By reading your post, it gave me a strength to quite masturbation forever. Although, It is not an easy as well. But not impossible. From the past 2 week i did not masturbate, yesterday when i came home from work and saw myself alone at home. Now i need to go 2 weeks again. For me It is not hard to quite til i get 1 month, but i dont know why i get scared in 3rd week. I think i have phobia.

Musicster, I'm glad that I was able to inspire someone. You have my full support. I think one has to be extremely radical and creative in defeating this habit.

During the critical first month, ruthlessly block out or avoid anything that leads you to masturbate. You may have to go outside your usual lifestyle until you can resist the temptations of daily modern living.

Here are some things to avoid completely:
-Browsing the internet at home (the temptations are just too great: porn,  chatrooms, youtube, dating sites, humor sites, etc.)
-Any type of porn
-Looking at womens' bodies
-Going to places where there are a lot of attractive young women (the trendy areas of the city, bars, clubs, coffee shops, malls, universities, red light districts, etc)
-TV
-Magazines (especially men's magazines like esquire, fhm, etc.)
-Novels (they tend to inflame the emotions)
-Movies (also inflame the emotions)
-Low-minded, sex-focused people
-Pop, rap or rock (the rhythms and lyrics seem to arouse lust and aggression)
-Being home alone; stay outside in a public place until you are ready to sleep.
-Comparing oneself to others, such as the "cool" guys with pretty girlfriends. most of them are Machiavellian douchebags who just get girls because they have looks and money and won't take "no" for an answer.

Here are some things to actively do:
-Keeping the mind pure and focused on higher things
-Associating with high-minded, respectable people
-Exercising (gym, jogging, sports) to blow off some of the excess energy
-Being outdoors in nature as often as possible (in a park, etc)
-Listening to uplifting classical music or religious talks
-Repeating positive affirmations (whatever works for you, e.g. "I can do it", "I am pure", "I am strong", "god is with me") throughout the day, and especially when in bed
-If being alone at home is a major problem, ask to sleep at a friend or acquaintance's place.

I've never had any anxiety or heart palpitations in the third week of abstaining. If anxiety attacks are a major concern for you, you could masturbate once every three weeks. That would be pretty reasonable and respectable in itself. I think it takes about two weeks for a man to recover from one ejaculation, so masturbating once every three weeks would give your body time to recover. What ever you choose to do, best of luck.

Thanks for the great guide. I'll be taking your advice as a good student :P. The major problem right now I'm facing is my health, 2nd is porn, and masturbation. Because I'm way skinny. I have read many post around saying that masturbation does not cause health problem. Some of post were agree that it cause your health and it makes you skinny. I just want to know if is it really true?. Although, It is been 4 years when i tried to stopped to masturbating. At that time i had heart problem, palpitation and worse anxiety. Plus i was on the medication for my heart rate the medication was " zolft". Maybe that was the reason when i had panic attack. But i need to find out now if i still get that panic attack or something else if i go for 3 weeks without masturbation and for porn. I hope it wont happen. Since it is been 4 years and now I'm trying again to quiet. My plan is if i go for 3 weeks without masturbation and porn then i ill start working out. Wish me best of luck and ill be here for more motivation and will keep posting and reading comments of yours and my other friend from here :D.

I think masturbation probably harms health. First, it makes the guy tired so he doesn't have the energy to exercise and build muscle. Second, semen contains a lot of important nutrients, including "lecithin", which is a major ingredient in the myelin sheaths of nerve cells. Semen's composition is similar to to the central nervous system; after all, each sperm cell could become a human being. It's good that you've decided to work out! I think working out improves well-being tremendously. Best of luck man! :)

Hey sorry guys, i made a new account. I could not logged in the previous account. So i made a new account with a same name. So i hope you guys done mind.

And yes, I guess you are right. I feel weak. But when i don't masturbate for one week or 2 week, i feel that i have energy, but their is one more problem, that every-time  when i go for 2 weeks with out masturbation, i feel lazy and feel sleepy and feel tired as well by not masturbating. Is that a normal thing or am i changing my habits or is their is something else. Because as soon as i masturbate, i feel relive and feel active, but no power inside of me :(. What could it be?

Hi musicster1, I honestly can't understand the laziness, sleepiness, and tiredness you feel in your second week of abstaining from MB. I've never experienced anything like that. Maybe other factors are causing the tiredness.

I see. One more thing. Back days when i went for 3 weeks i was on my medication called "zolft" for my anxiety. You think the reason for panic attack was my medication?

I tried zoloft as well as other meds in my twenties for depression and social anxiety, but not after I became celibate. I never experienced any panic attacks or heart palpitations from zoloft. I think it made me sleepy and relaxed, and gave me headaches when I stopped taking it. I do not know if your panic attack was due to zoloft.

You have too much time on your hands...
Find something to do, you need goals and aims. And you sure as hell better stick to them!
Make a time table, and plan you entire week. You need a routine, after 2-3 months it will become second nature.
So, make some short term goals. e.g
- training ( start bulking up ) it takes more time from your day than you think.
- do a course
- learn a different language
- read books at home - if you find a good book its not as bad as you think.

In your spare time, make time for friends and socialize. Don't waste time at home...
...that leads to TEMPTATION!

I don't know, but in my other post someone posted that medication i was taking, was the effects of the panic attack, dizziness. But i need to find out more about the abstaining masturbation for 1 month if that cause anything.

I know it is not an easy to get rid of your mind from net watching free porn online. I have trying not to masturbate but in the end i gave up. For how long have you been addicted when you were six? Ill be happy to hear more about quitting your habits.

y shud we masturbate?

Dude,ive been masturbating for a longtime now and i dont get it,should i or should i not?

omg guys i bet im the longer cuz went i was 6 my friend tell me 2 masterbed but i refuse went mignight i fell like masterbeding sooo i try is was good went i try i cant stop doing and doing until now i cant stop masterbeding now im 14 D: 1week 2 time or 4 **** i wish i can stop this god pls bless me or tell me dont do it D:

Bah!!!! I have to post...too many on here that seem to think the release of semen through masturbation hurts you!!! IT DOES NOTHING OF THE SORT!!! If that were true then sex would also be harmful(lets exclude stds and awkward positions from that...;p). You have to get rid of the semen, it builds up daily and your sperm does as well. If you don't get rid of it through masturbation, sex, nocturnal emissions,  your body will do it for you whether you want to or not, if it doesn't, you will have a health issue then, I guarantee it. Gotta get rid of the old to make room for the new... Now, that's not to say that masturbation is good or bad, really, it all depends on the outlet and how often you do it.By outlet I mean, what is it that your mind is focused on while in the act. Porn (hypocrite here...) is destructive in that it gives your mind a false reality and may even make you view others in a different light then you may have also, you may find your self going way out there on the weird fetishes that you may have once shunned, just to get turned on. Think of it like a drug, the first hits gets the job done but after a while that one hit just isn't enough to get the fix you wanted. If it interferes with your daily life in such a way as to impede you from other activities, then, you have an addiction just like a sex addict, drug addict, alcoholic, smoker etc...There have been studies to suggest that masturbation is good for prostate health, besides the added benefits of curbing your sexual appetite and relaxing you (makes ya sleep good ;p) it does no harm. If it hurt you as old wives tales would lead you to believe, mankind as a whole would be dealing with physical and psychological ailments galore due to it. Statistically it's around eighty percent of all men and somewhere around sixty percent of women that do or have masturbated.   And as for calling it Onanism...onan was disobedient because he didn't want to impregnate his wife, it wasn't the act of masturbation or "spilling his seed". Now, with all that said and done, if you still think it's wrong, stop. You can stop, it's just hard ( no pun intended). Though I will warn you, you can not stop your body from expelling the semen, it's gotta go one way or another.

...That was beautiful.Im the same way,i havent for 6 years using this technique u just wrote

Are you crazy? I have been studying health and the human body for 15 years and none of what you said is correct. Nature did intend for us to do it for even wild animals do it. Speaking of health masturbation helps prevent prostate cancer. No I am not saying, do it constantly but it can be healthy for your body as well as stress levels. You should know your facts before stating random things.

if your not a medical professional, i wouldn't be spreading obviously incorrect medical advice like that. just not smart

Look, masturbating is healthy and normal. We all are basically animals. We certainly have evolved into intelligent creatures with an understanding of ourselves and the world around us. Because of our ability to think about things and not just act and react, we find ourselves questioning our behavior all the time and we seem to have this need to question what we do and why we do it and the truth is that the only reason that wee don't just go out and grab a mate and do it like other animals is because of our evolving into rational creatures with feelings. Stopping masturbating is like stopping to eat sugary snacks and foods altogether which there is no need for because as long as you masturbate...or eat sugary snacks moderately, it will be ok and even good for you.

masturbation is perfectly normal, its actually natural, primates do it in the zoo, other mammals do it, none of them are married, thats not natural, whats not natural is denying yourself one of the greatest pleasures you can have, god gave us the pleasure to enjoy, if he only wanted us to do it to reproduce then why make it "fun", i masturbate daily, i also have a partner i **** on a daily basis, i am also a aerospace engineer masters graduate and have a trim body, masturbating i found kept me calm, when i did do it i no longer thought of doing it for the rest of the day, it kept my head clear to do what was needed throughout the day, no distractions! when i didnt do it its what i was thinking about even after months of not doing it, it was still in my head.  god never said that you have to be married, god never said it was wrong, he only gave the 10 commandments!!!!! he didnt write the bible, man did! it was man that made all these rules saying what was right and wrong, god only wants you to enjoy the life that he gave you, he loves his children so why would he torment us with this. he wouldnt!!!!! oh and by the way, god never said anything about gay being wrong either, im strait fyi, and i think all love is pure, man and woman, man and man, woman and woman, its still that strong love that god gave us. believe anything else and not do what god wanted for us is going against him and that will get you a ticket to hell!!!! it feels natural because it is!!!!!!!

correct it helps the body not the other way around, i have seen people saying it cripples you and makes you go blind, where are these people getting this from!!!!!

Hey peeps, i need help!!! I'm 18, I masturbate and even though i hate to admit it, its the truth, i started when i ws 14 by playing with myself, and nw its a frequent habit and i know it's nt as bad as you guys but i hate myself everytime i do it. I masturbate 1ce or maybe 2ce a month. Bt the urge comes everyday. I really just wanna stop, cn sumone/ anyone gve me tips on hw to stop?

I Just had to post. In order to stop you need will power and some motivation. It might sound simple but that's it. Some of the benefits I have experienced since giving up flapping for now on 50 days  is (1) more self control (2) less anxiety, this was a real problem for me. (3) No more depression (4) Been able to look people in the eye again, especially women! (5) Erections are harder and flaccid pens looks longer! (6) Women seem to check me out more (7) Feel stronger and more confident (8) Feel like I'm being or behaving like the person I'm supposed to be, not been fake or screwed up in the head (9) No more urinating at night, had this for years with many visits to the doc's even a consultant.
I can't explain how my life has changed for the better and this as all occurred while having a new baby that has been sick. With flapping I would have never of had the patience to help out my wife. All I can say is that its worth it. Like many others posters I have masturbated since a young teen and in the last ten years I added porn into the mix which in hindsight was not a good idea. First couple of weeks are difficult, but if you stick with it the benefits start manifesting and you won't look back. Here's to freedom!!

your not sinning!, don't let anyone ever tell you that, plus the whole religion thing is a lie to keep you in line, nothing done out of fear is doing good and anyone who does things because they are scared of going to hell is not a good person, do whatever makes you happy and find your own answers to what really is right and wrong, i can't ever stand by and see someone think they are being "sinners" there's no such thing just treat people as you yourself want to be treated and do what makes you happy and you will be fine :)

then why the hack you have time for writing this article dear friend. You have done everything just as us say. but, you still lack something. Admit it, otherwise you will live a life of LIE.

I am finally free from masturbation!!! I'm so happy that I've come to this point! I want to share how I got here.
You have to realize 3 things:

-temptations can pop in your mind from anywhere, but they're not from you. You did nothing to invite them. All you need is to identify that when satan whispers something evil in your head, instead of fighting it, ask for Jesus to fight it for you.

-Remember that Jesus Christ came to set us free, so that we would be free to NOT be mastered or enslaved to these otherwise endless cycles...It's humbling to invite Jesus into our grossest, most disgusting temptations, but that's what He wants us to do -- to invite Him in the darkest, grossest places, so He can renew us. When I have a temptation, I tell Jesus I invite Him into the temptation, and to remove from me the desire to masturbate, and I'm telling you the truth, I get enough strength to stop. On occasion if I'm alone I migth get distracted again and continue, and then I try my best to ask Him again, and it works; I can let go...then I try to be responsible and go outdoors and go for a walk or something. Sometimes I forget to ask or I close my heart from really meaning the prayer and I don't receive His grace of strength, and I fall...but then I can sit back and see that I'm doing so much awesomer than a year ago when my mind was just wild.

-Finally, Scripture gives us a great tip: that confessing our sins to one another is good, so that we can pray for each other. I don't know about you but just talking about my sins helps me because now I'm accountable to someone, and then when I slip back into old habits, I can feel so miserable and I don't want to tell them I fell back... but, I tell my best friend, and since my best friend is my fiancee, I know it hurts her to hear this, but she encourages me and forgives me and she prays with me, then and there, that I may grow in strength. (We are waiting for each other for marriage)

I am telling you the truth, I still have temptations. But now I can let go just for a few seconds and I ask Jesus to help me fight. And I tell my fiancee that I had a victory this morning, that I was tempted but I didn't fall! And we rejoice together and we thank God for setting us free every day. I'm at a place where I still often need to pray this prayer I wrote above. But now, apart from a slip-up a few weeks ago, I haven't masturbated to orgasm since 2 or 3 months ago.

All of you claiming that masturbation is completely normal, give me a freaking break. Especially those who claim we are just like animals and therefore, its normal. First of all, stop comparing us to animals. We are not like them, and we should not be compared. If you want to compare the animals with the humans, then you should do it with ALL things and not just the sexual ones. Elephants kill their own babies sometimes and no one really knows why...should we be able to do the same without consequences just because something like this happens in the animal kingdom? Of course not.

Furthermore, you dont have to be a health expert to know that the body has an automatic sperm disposal system (also known as a wet dream).
Sure, the chance of getting testicle cancer when not releasing sperm increases. But one can assume that every male finds his lady sooner or later? At least before the cancer even appears? (and thus, having sex is a certainty at some point)

Masturbation is for the weak. You are giving false signals to your brain.
If you wonder why you feel so weak and puny after masturbation, its because its the typical behavior of the weak male.

by reading these replies it may solve my many questions and problems.

So after reading these posts last night I decided that i was going to stop masturbating after doing it for years. I guess i can call myself an addict, last night i decided i would stop for 30 days, and you know what I couldn't even go 24 hours. I am starting to feel so disappointed in myself for letting some stupid activity control my life. I am so sick of myself, sometimes I imagine myself having sex with girls I know while i masturbate. Its ********, it has f***ed  my mind, and the way I acts around girls. At times I try stop myself but if i can't even go a whole day, what am I supposed to do?  I feel like I am wasting my life. I have read that masturbation, well over masturbation causes fatigue, lack of concentration, fuzzy vision, and more. The funny thing is i suffer from alot of these condition that i never had when I was younger. So I'am begining to think masturbation is the cause.  Even if these symptoms don't improve i feel like i could be a better person if i took control of my life. My grades are suffering and everytime i meet or even see a pretty girl my mind goes immediately to sex. I wan't to stop.

The thing is for the first 10-12 years of our lives for (most of us) we did not masturbate so why can't we stop now?
I am happy to see others wondering the samething I am.