Saying Goodbye for a while

[figuerpa]

I hope this finds everyone in the best of spirits. I wan ted to just say that I won't be on here for a while. I feel that I am really of no use to anyone on here right now. Life strings are tgging away at me and I don't know which way I am going myself.

I find myself up then down it is never a steady ride and I feel like a bother to everyone for always complaining about my woes and lately I haven't been responding to anyone's posts because the truth is I just don't know waht to say. I start to respond then when I read it, it just sounds like a bunch of jibberish so I don't post it.

I hope to find my way again and return here with some useful advice for everyone but as of now I am lost in a funk and am trying to fight my way out if it. I wish everyone on here the best of the best and that you are all ok.

Thank you,
Paula

[RedFlame]

Paula,  

I so look forward to seeing that you posted a response to my questions.  And I appreciate all that you have to say, like others, I have never experienced anything that is gibberish.

Responding can be hard as it takes time and effort.  It's interesting that a number of us are responding and then erasing our responses.  I have written long responses and then erased them over the last few months because I feel it's useless.  


You are valued here.  I like being able to support you too.  

Take a break so you can concentrate on what is currently happening.  But please come back.  We love having you here!

hugs,

Red

[jujuminx]

Paula,
  I certainly understand when life gets so busy, and sometimes tiring, that we need to take a break from things.  Do that if that is what you need.

  Don't leave though if you are leaving b/c you don't feel like you are giving enough.  We all have different roles here and those are constantly changing depending on our circumstances and daily moods.

  You are a very valuable member on this forum and your presence, or lack of, will be greatly missed.

  Chin up girl, we love you and things will get better.

  Blessings to you and your family,  Julie

[socrates2k1]

Paula,

Let me start by asking you this Q? Why did you join this community?
Was it to learn more about MS?
Was it for support, from other's who live daily with MS?
Was it to vent your frustration, etc. about living with MS?
Was it to hear, that you are not alone, that others live with the same symptoms, etc.?

Well, if you answered, "yes", to one, several, or all, to the above Q?
Then you should stay, because that is what we are all here for.

I'm not saying you have to "drop in" on a daily basis, I bet there are many who don't.

You can simply "drop in", once a week, and see if you gain anything personally, that helps you deal with this disease.

After all, whose going to take time out of their day, to go to a website, and gain nothing from it, very few, if any.

I will say a special prayer for you, as I include others who must deal with this disease.

I pray that He will hold and comfort you, guide and protect you, that His presence will let you know, you are definitely not alone.  He feels your pain and He cries with you, know He will not give you more, than He knows, you can handle.

Whatever you decide to do, Paula, take care and God bless.

-- Socrates2k1

[Sparkysarah]

I always enjoy hearing from you and you are just as valued as every other person on the forum. However I think it sounds as if at the moment you need to just do what is right for you and if taking a break from the forum helps then we all understand. But I would hate you to be struggling on your own. I think that I have said before that this forum gives opportunity to give and to take and there are times when some of us dip more on one side than the other.

If you ever need to take, then don't feel if you feel unable to "give advice" you cannot just come and let your feelings out or reach out to us. We will be here for you whatever and wish you luck with the challenges ahead. Please come back when you feel ready and take care of yourself.

With love and big hugs

Sarah x

[Guitar_grrrl]

I often lurk, especially if I have nothing to say.  Just a quick look to see what's happening.  We still love you!

[drsdonthelp]

Paula,

I guess you do have alot on your plate right now!! I am glad to hear that this will not be permanent. I count on your input alot, and I don't care if its jibberish, It takes me a couple of times to read and comprehend stuff these days so it ends up making sense in my mind sooner or later! ha ha.

I think I do the same thing you do when it comes to responding or posting, I will type something up, read it, it doesnt make sense or I repeat myself a thousand times, so I delete it and start again. We love you, and hope you stay well during this overwhelming time.

Hugs, Pam

[supermum_ms]

Hey Paula,

You have had a lot going on already and now you've added even more, so no wonder your feeling in a fuddle and over stretched. The only thing I really want to remind you is that everything you have to say is as equally important as anyone elses words of wisdom. You may not feel your posts are important or interesting compaired to other peoples but they are and always will be important. Even if only one person gets it, the importance of your post will always be meaningful to that person, so please remember YOU are IMPORTANT!

HUGS.................JJ

[Sarahsmom46]

I'll miss you while you are gone. I look forward to reading both your postings and responses to other people's posts. You have a kind and compassionate heart.

Take a break. We all certainly have done that from time-to-time. We all need breaks to collect our thoughts or deal with healing our bodies and souls. Come back when you are up to it whether that is a few days/weeks or even a few months.  

I'll be thinking of you and hopeful that all will come together for you so you can come back.  

Hang in there and feel a big bear hug coming your way.

Julie

[addicted2harleys]

Paula-

You definitely have a lot on your plate right now.  No wonder you feel funkish.  Remember to breathe, my friend.  Try to take one day at a time.  I hate moving, too.  I will be writing the funk post in June when I load up and move.  lol

I wanna know about that grandbaby that's on the way!   You shared in my joy when my finally arrived earlier this month.  I want to share in yours, too!

I have been doing the write the post and think it stupid or whatever and never sending it.  I am finding it hard to keep up on the messages and feel bad about that.  But, honey, it happens!  :)

So, go in lurk mode if you need to.  I will keep your chair empty and warm...waiting for you to take it back.  You belong here just as everyone else has said.  

Hugs,
Addi

[Audrey_M]

Paula:

Are you by any chance dealing with the end of winter blahs/blues? I read your post and it could have been me writing it, and yes, I am so tired of all of the curve balls that came this winter, including way too many snow storms!

And on the very first full day of spring, what did we see in the air today? More snow!!!

So here's to some down time and hopefully a quiet spell that will rejuvenate your spirit, with a few good dashes of warm sunny days and flowers in bloom to brighten your day.

Looking forward to seeing you back when you're ready...you're a much valued member of this forum.

Audrey

[LisaJF]

I dont know you but I'd hate to see you go -- even for a short time.  Sometimes even as a registered nurse I have no clue how to respond to posts.  Sometimes, with a professional background aside, I dont know how to respond to the emotional aspects of what people here are feeling.  

A complete retard.  

However, I hope you return soon!  I wish you the best and take care of yourself!

(PS -- if anyone complains about their woes -- look at my freaking posts!  That's all I do and everyone here tolerates it and offers support, emotional and educational ...It's about community and togetherness and I have this great feeling about everyone).    Like the run on sentence?

Lisa

[Wobbly]

I understand exactly how you feel, I'm there at this moment and that's why I haven't really been on for awhile, you at least tell everyone.  But don't go far, I do check in once in awhile, just so everyone knows I'm still here.

take care of yourself and keep looking on here.. we will know your around and check in once in awhile.  Stay close
wobbly

[figuerpa]

Thanks everyone,

It is just temporary, I will be lurking and be back. Right now I don't know which way I am going. The move is driving me nuts (OH HOW I HATE MOVING)

I have to admit your heartfelt posts made me cry and maybe that is what I need....a good ol fashion cry...that always seems to help to a point. Between school, getting the house ready for the move, my daughters wedding, packing the apartment for the move, planning a baby shower and the fatigue, pain and numbness I am at my wits end.

Everything has come up at once and I think I am just overwhelmed and don't know waht to do with myself. I will push on and try to keep my head above water. when the move is finally finished I think I will be able to sit back and relaz a bit.


It is extrememly hard to deal with so much at once while struggling with my own body not cooperating. I am trying guys and I will be around a little just not heard from a lot until I can actually put two and two together again.

Yeah a good ol fashion cry is in order I think :)

Thanks again,
Paula

[twopack]

I need to clarify.....

Temporary LOA -- approved.
Resignation -- NO WAY, Jose.

I just realized you are moving.  No wonder your direction meter is gone gaga and funk rules.  Are you sure you want to go this solo?  Just askin'.

Mary

[anon07072023]

Paula,
I think I really have to tell you that you DO have a value to people on here.  I'm sorry that you feel that you are of no use to anyone on here.

The truth is - is all you have to do is give it your best - whatever your best is each day.  It's dynamic - it's always changing for everyone.  I believe it can change from moment to moment.  If anyone can understand what you're going thru - it's us. We are all one big family/community.

Please know that we will all be waiting for you to return. Our door is always open.  But please don't settle for the path of least resistance and don't give up on yourself and on us.

Take Care,
Kelly      

[rendean]

Paula, I'm sorry you are in a funk and I think we can all relate to that feeling. Your support here in the forum as been fantastic. It doesn't matter if you don't have the medical answer, having the answer that makes one feel warm and welcomed is just as important.

I second Shell regarding the jibberish. I haven't noticed it so perhaps it is a funk you are in and need a break from the forum. We've all been down that road.

Temporary leaves of absences are permitted but permanent ones are not. You offer a positive attitude and a feeling of belonging to every poster you answer. You do make a difference.

So, take whatever time you need and know that we will be waiting for your return. I also second twopack's  statement, "If you leave Paula, it better be to work on the funk and not to waller in it."

Ren  

[shermay]

Paula,

Remember the MOB RULES???

As Shell said, just lurk if want -so you can't leave.

We all have problems in life, but we are all together in this journey no matter what, whether it's supporting - or venting, we are always here!

I also have started to post to a thread and found that my answer was gibberish, but hey what the heck??  If you just post to a thread - it just shows your support.

There's a lot MORE in life to worry about - can you hear me??? yelling at the keyboard now:)

Stay in touch with us Paula - we are here for everyone - that includes you sunshine:))

Serious bear hugs,

Debs XXXXXXX

[twopack]

If you leave Paula, it better be to work on the funk and not to waller in it.  

So many of us recognize the walls you are describing.  None of us are here because we are experts (well, maybe one of us can claim that).  We are here for each other ON the journey.  Did you ever sit through a slideshow presentation of someone else's adventure?  It isn't near as interesting as being along to share all the ups and downs that make a personal story.

Like Shell says, only you can decide what is right for you in the moment.  Just know that nobody here is accepting resignations, not even temporary ones.

Mary

[meg321]

Hi Paula,

I have been feeling the same way lately and you don't need to give advice, just sharing helps me a lot.  But then i havent been sharing, i know why but it is very scattered and can change by the moment.

Good luck moving and PLEASE dont feel you have nothing to offer...

see you soon, meg

[sllowe]

:(

You don't have to say goodbye - he ll I don't see any jibberish - but if that were the case, I shoulda left long time ago, lol

Seriously, Paula you do what you have to for you. Don't say goodbye - just lurk if you can. And be sure to hollar if you need your spirits lifted no sense being on that ride alone. Your never a bother ever. Be good to yourself or I'll be after you!

Fight that funk best you can my friend.
(((((Hugs)))))
shell