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How Childish Can You Get?
About a year and a half ago my husband and I got into a fight. It was between us. Everyone thought they knew what was best. They didn't though. They had to get involved, and lecture us about what they would have done.
My husband and I worked it out. This one girl was determined to get between us. She sent us messages about how we should be Moe religious, and how it was her job to run our relationship. She was and still is engaged to someone who she poisoned against us. She is stillmad at us to this day.
There is this other guy, who is also no longer a friend. He was offended that we didn't do what he wanted. He told my husband he didn't like me.
I will never speak to these people again. What do people act like children in these situations. This fight had NOTHING to do with them and they still got involved.
My husband and I worked it out. This one girl was determined to get between us. She sent us messages about how we should be Moe religious, and how it was her job to run our relationship. She was and still is engaged to someone who she poisoned against us. She is stillmad at us to this day.
There is this other guy, who is also no longer a friend. He was offended that we didn't do what he wanted. He told my husband he didn't like me.
I will never speak to these people again. What do people act like children in these situations. This fight had NOTHING to do with them and they still got involved.
COMMUNITY LEADER
No, they aren't ---- I agree. I think that if someone brings drama and issues with them, then the friendship might not be worth the feelings they stir inside of you. No outside party should ever try to get involved in a married couple's business.
good luck
good luck
My BIL occasionally has a tendency to trust people way too much and thus tells them too much. It's something we've all talked about and are working on. I tried to shut it down as soon as this girl started being nosy and intrusive, but she just got really angry. I even asked her nicely...at first. She felt like she was entitled to fix the fight. Her fiance has shut us out before and usually comes running back asking to renew the friendship after a year or two. At what point is enough, enough? Flaky friendship aren't worth it!
COMMUNITY LEADER
Yes, I was going to say the same thing. I keep private business with my husband and I to myself and fights usually count. I might tell a girlfriend but that is someone I'm really close to and trust.
I think in the future, I'd just not entertain any conversation with some outsider like that. You can say "Oh, we worked it out but thanks anyway" as soon as they start with their advice.
Also, people say things they may only mean in the heat of the moment like that guy who said he didn't like you. When one of my girlfriends gets all ticked off at their husbands--- at that moment, I think the guys are complete jerks. I hope I don't tell them!!! Yeesh. But it is usually a temporary feeling until they work it out. I'm protective of my friend. Why was your husband having this conversation with him anyway? I'd have him try to do the same thing of not entertaining conversations of this sort with outsiders. Shut it down as soon as it starts.
Good luck!
I think in the future, I'd just not entertain any conversation with some outsider like that. You can say "Oh, we worked it out but thanks anyway" as soon as they start with their advice.
Also, people say things they may only mean in the heat of the moment like that guy who said he didn't like you. When one of my girlfriends gets all ticked off at their husbands--- at that moment, I think the guys are complete jerks. I hope I don't tell them!!! Yeesh. But it is usually a temporary feeling until they work it out. I'm protective of my friend. Why was your husband having this conversation with him anyway? I'd have him try to do the same thing of not entertaining conversations of this sort with outsiders. Shut it down as soon as it starts.
Good luck!
It was an accident that she even found out.
Why are you sharing your fights with other people? Keep this private, and you won't have this problem.
Life is better without people like this. Hold your head high since things are going well. It is work you two putnin that made it all okay.
Margy you are right I still to this day can't figure out why this girl thought that she got to run someone else's relationship. She is not even in his family, or mine for that matter.
I don't think she really was a friend, but someone who acted like one.
I don't think she really was a friend, but someone who acted like one.
As teddybears4ever2's sister I was helping them through this situation and I very nicely asked this girl to butt out. She totally lashed out at me and I had to yell at her because she wouldn't stop freaking out. Her fiance has dated 2 women who he has turned against his us. Our husbands have been friends with him since they were young, so it just seems odd that he does this. When his last gf and him broke up he eventually came crawling back and begged to be friends with us. Now that it's happened all over again, we won't let him back in. If it happens one time I'll believe that it was the gf who hated us, but if it happens twice then it's him.
Its tough when folks do this they probably think they were helping in fact they as you say should have kept quiet ,why would a friend think it was her job to run' your relationship that doesn't make sense.Anway you worked through it and I expect it has strengthened you both ..good luck to you
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