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do men fantasise other women besides their wife while masterbating
This discussion is related to lieing and masterbating .
This discussion is related to lieing and masterbating .
ok the original question wasnt whether it is right or not. she asked if men do.
yes we probably all do (that's why we have porn). i know i do and have done since i was a teenager. but then again i'm not a very good example (and yes judy, i have sinned)
yes we probably all do (that's why we have porn). i know i do and have done since i was a teenager. but then again i'm not a very good example (and yes judy, i have sinned)
I'm Catholic and long time employee of the Archdiocese of Chicago....it's adultery if married with just the thought....in the bible and commandment.
This doesn't answer your question, but I personally do not even want to know what goes through a guys head when he's masturbating. and IMO I don't think it's even right to ask him about it. to me, masturbation is a personal time and no one has the right to know what your thinking about because they are your private thoughts during a completely private moment(or longer than a moment, whatever works..lol) Even if you do think about another person other than your wife/husband while doing it, I don't consider that cheating because sometimes stuff just pops in your head and you can't control it. I'm not trying to offend anyone, I'm catholic and i know what the bible says about adultery and i know the commandments, but i don't consider that adultery. This might sound like a double standard but if it was a woman doing it then maybe i could see how it could be considered adultery. I'm saying that ONLY because most woman view sex with an emotional connection, where as most men just basically want the sex.
I love my bf and been with him for over 8 months. I found soooo much porn and Asian porn and butt porn and I am white and not into the butt stuff. I found it on his computer after 2-3 months of dating by looking at his history. It was every day like 20 websites and even right before I would come over. He has always taken forever to get off, but I thought and he says that it has always been like that. I believed him but I do think that b/c he watched porn so much, making love to just me doesn't cut it and afraid I will never satifiy him. I give it to him every night. It is not like I am deprieving him at all. I am attactive and have a great body. It has made me insecure now about myself and hate that.
I told him how it makes me feel and that it is a deal breaker for me. He said he loved me and it is worth giving up for me and said he was addicted to it and done it for over 13 years and his dad and bro did it as well. He turned off his internet at his place and has made me feel guilty about taking that away from him and has resentment built up against me these past 5 months. We almost broke up a few weeks ago b/c of the lack of intimacy and how he wasn't really affectionate to me. We would do it but it was always about him getting off and from behind. It was like he was watching a porn and that is what he thinks making love is. It has gotten better the last 2 weeks, but I am afraid that he will go back to his old ways and if we ever do get married that I will deal with this the rest of my life.
I am also afriad if I leave him that all guys will do it and deal with this again. Maybe not to the extent to what he was doing, everyday even before I would come over to spend the night, but some. My ex fiance did it and upset me as well. Any advise. Am I crazy to think there are good, attractive guys who don't look at it?
I told him how it makes me feel and that it is a deal breaker for me. He said he loved me and it is worth giving up for me and said he was addicted to it and done it for over 13 years and his dad and bro did it as well. He turned off his internet at his place and has made me feel guilty about taking that away from him and has resentment built up against me these past 5 months. We almost broke up a few weeks ago b/c of the lack of intimacy and how he wasn't really affectionate to me. We would do it but it was always about him getting off and from behind. It was like he was watching a porn and that is what he thinks making love is. It has gotten better the last 2 weeks, but I am afraid that he will go back to his old ways and if we ever do get married that I will deal with this the rest of my life.
I am also afriad if I leave him that all guys will do it and deal with this again. Maybe not to the extent to what he was doing, everyday even before I would come over to spend the night, but some. My ex fiance did it and upset me as well. Any advise. Am I crazy to think there are good, attractive guys who don't look at it?
the thought of it upsets me! i got in a recent argument with my fiancee about this exact thing! how could he get "off" to another girls body!! I never ever think of another guy during sex or anything else. It just makes me feel disgusting and not good enough. i just told him that the "girl" he is imagining will never ever be me. i will never be that and he better get used to what he has got cuz god knows i can do much better.
Yes, the Bible says that about lust and married people. But that wasn't the answer that I think you were looking for. My answer is that it all depends. Men are horny all the time. Whatever gets them off during masturbation is what gets them off. They may be thinking about you, or sex in general, or just looking at an image of T and A, doesn't matter who's they are, or whatever fantasy that turns them on and they are in business. So it all depends. Masterbation is natural and when it happens, its usually because you are aroused. This has nothing to do with love, its the fact that they can't help it. The need to is natural for men, and I believe some women as well. So I wouldn't worry about what men masterbate to, or if its other women. Only worry if the man just masterbates and never has sex with you, or if he has a picture of another real live women and masterbates to that. Either way, I would be happy he is not cheating. Maybe you should take nude pictures of yourself for him to masterbate to.
If aware, if Christian or religious, if asked, truly repented and not repeated...Judy
I'm aware that we are human, not perfect and tempted, and there are men who are non-Christian and then repent after it felt soooo good....it happens.
I'm aware that we are human, not perfect and tempted, and there are men who are non-Christian and then repent after it felt soooo good....it happens.
I think not lusting after others applies to everyone whether you are married or not. Just because it happens does not make it right. As for a mortal sin... I think that all sins are on the same playing field. Just my 2 cents.
oh..one more thing...Adultery is breaking the commandement "Thout Shalt not Commit Adultery"....(applicable to married people). If knowingly and intensionally broken it's MORTAL sin, that mean n your soul at time of death is in trouble with the big guy upstaris....Judy
Teko..I'm with you 100% and the questions is if married. An unmarried man masterbating and thinking of another women...it happens. A married man, who has married in a Church, vowing religious sacarments, masterbating and thinking of another woman is considered adultery. Even if he looks at another woman with lust and is married, it is adultury.....oh well, let the first one without sin throw the first stone. So much for the religious stuff....Judy
Well, the book does say that if you look at a woman with lust, then you have already committed adultry in the heart. I wonder how many people have not committed adultry in their heart. It also says you should not envy others. Or that a man shall drop his seed on the ground (masterbation?). I think it all goes to show us all just how imperfect we are and to make us realize how much we need God, because we are not perfect. Not one of us is. Amen. My contribution for the day. Sign of the times I guess.
That's a tough question because I dont know that all men would be very honest with their answers.
Women- do you think about other men when you masturbate?? I TRY not to but sometimes you cant help what pops into your head, you cant always control your own thoughts, with that said, I don't think it is adultery.
Women- do you think about other men when you masturbate?? I TRY not to but sometimes you cant help what pops into your head, you cant always control your own thoughts, with that said, I don't think it is adultery.
Mitch...lol...I understand what you mean, but He wrote it not I....it's a Commandment. Judy
You did marry in a church with vows of fidelity...it's spiritual infidelity...it's adultury.
If you are married and fantasizing and masterbating about other women that are not your wife, just in thought is infidelity and it is adultury. No one is getting hurt and you are getting all the pleasure, but in the eyes of God...it is adultury.
Judy
Judy
All the time! Yes! Because women see sex as a mental, emotional bonding thing that means forever after and all that. Men on the other hand see it as sex, period. Feels good so do it kind of thing. Now that is not to say that men are cheaters, just that their take on sex is different than ours. If he sees a naked chick, he is gonna look whether he loves you or not. If you ask him if he looked he will deny till the cows come home, cause he dont want to fight, but yeah, they all do. So, you c, you gotta have something to offer someone other than what is at the Y, cause sex aint gonna hold em for long. It helps to have something in common between the ears as well.
I don't know about adultury, but men certainly do it, I can't see any harm in it at all, better that than cheating, looking at porn or getting lap dnaces at strip clubs.
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