need advice.

[riaa0815]

My mother hasn't been in my life long. She walked out on me shortly after she gave birth to me, I went to louisiana to meet her and she seemed lovely but I've realized that it was a cover up. The moment I told her I was pregnant by my long term boyfriend she verbally slandered me calling me a "hoe" saying I was no good but for laying on my back&  opening my legs, she told me to kill my child, has told her friends that its probablly my step fathers baby. Knowing well enough that my stepfather would NEVER touch me in anyway like how she is making it seem! My step father has been more of a parent then she ever has. But its just I wanted her to be in my life and her grandchilds but all she can do is fine ways to ruin me and to call me out my name. When I really don't deserve any of it. Ive ignored her because stress is not good for my baby but I just don't know if I should talk to her or leave it how it is. My grandma says that she's my mother but to me a mother would never degrade her child because she has gotten pregnant. What should I do?

[AnnieBrooke]

Stay away from her.  She is the woman who gave birth to you  but she is not your mother.  You obviously wanted a happy ending here, but you aren't going to get it.  Best not to kill yourself trying for it.

[AnnieBrooke]

By that I mean you can't get motherly love out of a stone.

Go on with your life, and make it a happy one.  Especially by staying out of her orbit.

[riaa0815]

Thank you, its easier to do something when you here the voices of others.

[AnnieBrooke]

Take care, honey.  You owe yourself a peaceful life, and you owe your baby a sweet upbringing.  Do not bring a toxic person into your world, no matter if she happened to give birth to you or not.  She didn't do much else for you, and other people did.  Those other people are your support system and the ones you will love and support.  Nobody says genetics are destiny, we develop our families where the love is.  You might have looked up your bio-mom in hopes of closing an old wound and coming complete circle and all, but you found out that your circle is sweeter without her and she just causes pain.  DON'T GO THERE.  There are better and easier ways to heal old wounds.

Good luck in your future.

((((HUGS))))

Annie

[ku111]

Well, all I can tell you is that kind of support and negativity has no place in the wonderful life you are about to begin!  You did just fine before meeting her and you will be even better now.  You just give your child all the love and support you can.  You win!  I wish you all the happiness!  Congrats early!

[motherless]

Your mother is toxic and your boyfriend/baby's father is toxic.  Once your child is born and you hold him/her in your arms, you will know what choice to make. Your child will give you the strength you need.