I've been married for 5 years. The last few have been pretty bad. I already bought Oxy's on the street at least once a week or whenever I could when I hurt my back and started getting Oxy's prescribed. I got 3 x 40's a day and told my wife that I was only getting Percocets. After about 6 months I had come up so short for my next appointment that I had to face a cold turkey at a 4 pills a day habit. It was so bad. I had nothing to help. I laid in the shower but I didn't have any Benzo or Vitamin or anything. Even though I had lied to my wife the whole time, by day 2 or 3 she bought me a few vitamins and I could see that she cared. I went to a new doctor after that and started taking Kadian. I did pretty good for a while. Eventually I was switched to Opana and soon after I started taking Roxi's as well. I took the Opana and crushed and snorted the Roxi's. I never really got caught back then. I was taking 4 x 20mg of Opana and 4 x 15mg Roxy's. In July of 08 I had back surgery and after this I was switched to the same Opana's but 6 x 8mg Dilaudid. I got caught occasionally getting high before my surgery. After my surgery I started I snorted all my Dilaudids and slowly started snorting my Opana's until I was snorting all 10 of my pills each day. Obviously, there's no way to snort 10 pills a day without getting caught. In addition to getting caught regularly, I started stealing the extras that my wife kept in her drawer. I got up to about 11 x 20mg Opana's plus my Dilaudid's when she found my stash that I had taken from her. Things have gotten really bad recently if they weren't bad already. In the past three months, my wife has caught me about once a week getting high. Half the times were followed by letters begging her to believe that I wouldn't do it again knowing that I couldn't stop snorting them since I was so deep. I'd have had to go through major WD's just to be able to take my pills by mouth without snorting them. So many times she's told me she doesn't want to be married to me and that I'm a loser and that she's going to leave me as soon as she's out of grad school and can support herself and my son. The other day, after getting caught again, I wrote my wife a 5 page letter explaining to her that I'm done doing all bad things and that I'm going to be a man and treat her like the woman she deserves to be treated like. A few hours later she walked in on me crouched over in the shed getting high. I couldn't believe it. I was so angry at myself. I had wanted to get off these pills for a while so I thought that this has to be the time. I'm having surgery again in a few weeks so I don't know if it makes sense for me to get off my pills completely but I feel like I have to do something. Last night she wanted nothing to do with me. She didn't even want to listen to me speak but I told her not to give me anything at least until the following morning. For the past few weeks she had been giving me each dose and watching me take it. We both thought that would help me abuse but I couldn't go through that much WD so I'd put them in the back of my throat and then I'd spit them back out and crush them. I just don't know what to do. I wd so bad last night and today that I can now take my Opana without WD and not take my Dilaudid at all. At least today. We'll see how tomorrow goes.
Have I done so much damage that we can never be a happy couple again? What should I do? Should I get off the pills and just see if she'll have anything to do with me? She thinks I'm a dead beat, lying, loser. I want to stay with her so bad. I'd do anything. Obviously, these pills have had such a hold on me that if I really would do anything, why am I still getting high and getting caught? What do I do?
How do I save my marriage?