Fiance has been using Oxycontin for 9 months

[concernedfiance]

I just found out last week that my fiance has been snorting oxycontin for the last 8-9 months. I found out because he was lying and I accused him of having an affair with a coworker. She told me the truth that they were not sleeping together, but were snorting oxycontins a few times a month. After he was "caught" he told me that he would do it sometimes 3 times a day, but would detox for a week or so. He says he does this only when it's available to him  (he was selling them to the coworker). Obviously I am not a fool, but we have a child together and I want to believe him that he has stopped. He went through withdrawl these last few days (July 15th was his last time) and seems to be ok now. I am concerned that since I did not notice this before that I would not recognize this if he went back to using. We are waiting to get some help, whether pyshcologically or from medication (if he is depressed or anxious or something) so that is a bonus that he wants to get help, but I am still trying to understand this addiction. I am not into drugs and have never been this "close" to any of them or any addicts. Is there symptoms or behaviours...anything that I can "catch" to free my mind from distrust right now, when the thought of him away from me is making me question him?

[twolve]

happy and energy would probably be the two words most oxy users would use to describe how they felt..organizing the garage sounds like he had the energy to do that from the pills..i would honestly write the most amazing papers when i was on oxy..thats not to say i cant do that now that im off of them..but at the time it felt like that was the reason why i did it. it just numbs everything in your body so your not aware of anything negative and it allows you to focus on what you want..like say you begin to organize the garage not on oxy..sometime through it you might say my back hurts im gonna stop or im getting tired im gonna stop..but on oxy you wouldnt feel stuff like that..plus when you snort it, its just a straight rush to your brain..which is why its harder to stop because your brain is looking for that next rush. as far as the sex, i enjoyed having sex on it because you could last however long you wanted..sounds weird but for a guy thats a pretty big deal..after being off the pills i realized sex wasnt as good on the pills for me because your kinda numb you dont get the full feeling..

[concernedfiance]

See I'm still confused because the terms "happy" and "energy" keep comming up, and that's what he seemed like on it, or at least what I can say he was like looking back now. He would goi an organize the garage for like 6 hours....work on his car from morning to night....not get much sleep, but then crash a few days later. He didn't seem interested in sex...which is odd...he's a guy right? so I knew something was up, but had no idea it was drugs. He says he does them on his way home in the car, or at nigh tin the garage or on breaks at work with this coworker.

Is this "pinhole pupil" a correct judgement of using? I read that somewhere...

[Mandapanda17]

I think those are good signs that you found the 'sleeping' meds around. I know things like that could help you sleep when going thru withdrawal. I think the drugs gave me energy but I know oxys are a bit different than what I was taking. A little stronger, so they could make you sleepy too. keep posting, it helps! ;)

[twolve]

Well from what I hear it sounds like there is no reason to believe he is using again. I think everyone reacts a little different to it, especially since people take it for different reasons. Although its hard for me to admit I believe I am the worst kind because I was purely recreational never had it prescribed always had to pay for it. I have never been in trouble, always had good grades, fun to be around so it was just so weird for me to think of myself as someone addicted to pain killers. For me I would go to school and baseball practice and there was nothing better in my opinion than coming home, taking a shower, snorting some oxy and doing homework. when i didnt have one it would throw everything off, i didnt want to do the homework and i would just sit there and obsess over finding any pain killer. oxy was my first choice but if u put a few vikes in front of me or any kind of opiate that was fine by me. it just allowed me to be happy and have energy, but it was such a burden. think about waking up each day and the first thought is either "snort a pill" or "damn i have to find one"..and most dealers sleep till 12 or 1 because they themselves are so drugged up so waiting until you could get one was horrible..and making excuses to go somewhere to my gf it was just so awful..these last two weeks havent been easy on me..but they havent been that hard either..its life..nothing is easy all the time..but i feel like a good person again..ive always been a good person..but without the addiction i feel like other people should view me as a good person..when i was using i would think.."man if they only knew what i just did in the bathroom they would think im such a loser"..and they would be right..but not anymore.

[concernedfiance]

twolve, Thanks for the support on this...When I first learned of what he was doing I thought that the drug was making him more "excited" like taking ectasy or something, but he says it does the opposite for him....did that happen to you to?
With his attitude these last few days he has "happier" moments, but it's usually because I'm trying to lighten the mood up a bit. We went to a wedding because I thought it was a good idea and they were close friends or ours. I wasn't with him 24/7 but he seemed to be in better spirits, besides smoking like a champ, but he is definitley finding certain people stressfull right now...my son and my mother...lol...right like who doesn't find their mother in law stressfull!

[cathy5841]

ususally an oxycontin snort when high will nodd off.  meaning they cant sit still for very long without napping.  i snorted for over a year.  they also have secrets and spend absurd amounts of time in the bathroon (or their snorting room) lol.  good luck...there are also drug test at cvs to test for opiates.