Yall are all awesome..If i could I would give you a great big hug...so glad there are people out there that care
I agree with ibizan, he is in a sober environment, therefor he is atleast pointed in the right direction. I also think you'd be surprised, I'm sure he know's that that you are there for him and that you love him. Wheter he conciously knows it or not, he needs some alone time. This is new to him. It can be quite scary, I know I was terrified.
Yes, it is your life. Only you know what is right for you. Always remember that.
redbull and psychodog-takes a real man to admit his wrongs...cool...all one..we can do is not repeat them on a daily basis.sarah- we women have to do the same.....and rpoohbear-u always rock fuzzybutt!:)
U have a lot to think about...u have nudged him in2 a sober environment.....they will give him recovery tools and it is solely up to him to do w/them what he chooses.Yes off to Al-anon for u...the work has just begun!:)for both of u!
I thank you all for your advise..and i value it all...I think he is confused also and ashamed..I would just like to be able to let him know i am here for him..Yes he has done all this to me..but, the fact is..I love him. I have alot of praying and sole searching to do in the next month. because that is how long i have to call the divorce off..Trust me my family will hate me if i do that..but, it is my life..Right now..I am just going to not worry about it..back off, go to alanon, get stronger and we will see where God leads me. I am so glad i found this forum..you all have gave me alot to think about...God Bless all of you and I do believe I have saved his life and that makes me feel pretty good..
I would think that he is ashamed, and confused, and doesn't know what to do or what to expect right now. He isn't sure what or why is going through his mind right now. When I was where he was I just wanted everyone to leave me alone. You can't take it personally, then you are no good to him or yourself. This will be a tough time for him for a while, but if he really want's to do it he can. Heck, I didn't want to do it and I did.
I stand by my position that he needs a reality check, now. There were many times in the past that if you posed the "Does he not realize i did it because i love him" question to me, I would of said, in between drinks, "yeah, right, you love me so much you're dumping me", now that I'm sober I realize that's exactly why she was doing it, and not only do I love her more for it, but she also probobly saved my life.