Here is what my nurse practitioner said to me when I was really having trouble with a loss and was crying a lot over it. She put me onto an antidepressant, and said "You won't be any happier about the situation, but you *will* notice you aren't crying all the time." And she was correct. Anti-anxiety meds and antidepressants don't put something on top of who you are and change you, or make you feel unreal or disassociated. They just put a fix on something that isn't working right, so you feel more normal.
I suggest you take them for six weeks, and see if I'm not right. You can always taper back off of them, but give them a fair trial first.