I would recommend posting in the OCD forum. Not that you have OCD, but because this exact topic comes up there a LOT. The community leader of that community is amazing. Even if you just search that forum, you'll find several related discussions.
This is actually a fairly common fear in people with anxiety issues, and/or OCD.
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder-OCD-/show/231
I believe your not gay. When we are kuds we do stupid things. And i mean some kids grow up confused becsuse they been sexually abused by other men. N they need help.. But maybe u need to figure it out n get help.. But i dont see nothing wrong with being gay.. Just saying..
yea thats what I think but I guess since ive been thinking it for so long and look back on my past of things that I did with other kids makes me believe it even more. but like I said ive been with her for 7 years and you know I was a kid and all I wanted to do was have sex with her from the begining. And I guess since shes led me on and I tell myself maybe next time, nothing. maybe this time,nothing for so long that I'm believing that I am. Like I told my mom yesterday and it felt better but then I start thinking what if I did that to myself after all these years of trying and thinking. like I started to listen to what people were saying and like I started to think that the devil making this happen to me. idk but then when I say ok I am it kinda goes away but then questi myself again. I think am gona talk to a phychiatrist to help me out
I think u putting things in your head, and the none having sex with ur girlfriend is bringing you a low self esteem Thinking something is wrong.. Theirs nothing wrong trying to find answers i mean all u causing is that u confusing your self thinking your gay because u dont have any sexual contact with ur partner, ofcourse is not normal after so many years? I think theirs something wrong with her.. Your not the problem is her. So ur not gay..
There are so many things worse you could be than gay! There is no 1 test that says you are or aren't. Maybe you like both. It sounds like 7 years with the same GF and NO sex...is what you might figure out first. It's not wrong, just you don't say anything about either of you WANTING to abstain for any reasons. Many men get married, have kids, and then find they are not happy and are gay. YOU are the only one who can answer the question and really there is no time limit on the answer.
im a male I ment to put that. and yea I heard can be like any other phobia.thanks
Homophobia now is a disease? God, what isn't a disease these days. What I find most interesting is on your profile you say you're a female. Assuming you're really a male, seven years without sex in this day and age with no religious reasons for it? My guess is, if you were gay you'd know it, but people are different and have different levels of sex interest. But if you want it and she doesn't, I see this as more a relationship issue than a sexual preference issue. Only you truly know the answer.