Sorry you are so uncomfortable. If you type 'Effexor withdrawal' into box at top of page and click 'search', you will find several posts that will let you know you are not the only person to have prolonged symptoms associated with discontinuing Effexor.
I took this antidepressant for over a year while going through anal cancer treatment: no problems for a year: then I started gaining weight: it was out of control: 50 lbs in about four months. Added to this, my face broke out in the most awful acne-like bumps I have ever had. I wanted to crawl under the bed. I discontinued the drug and experienced many of the same things you are. I got through it and so will you.
I was taking clonazapam at same time and still take it for anxiety: wonder if it helped to shorten duration of withdrawal symptoms. You might ask your doctor if he would prescribe an anti-anxiety. I have no idea if it would help. Just a thought from someone who has been where you are. Hope you feel better soon.
I'm not sure why you are seeing a neuro for depression. I mean, they ARE head guys, but don't generally deal with disorders like depression and anxiety. At least not where I live.
Considering all the symptoms you are having now, it's my humble and non-medcial opinion that you should get this guy on the phone IMMEDIATELY and make damn sure he knows how you're feeling............there ARE things he could give you to make this transition much easier. But I would also recommend that you search around for a PMM (Psychiatric Medication Manager) who can be found in most psychiatric clinics and will get you on the correct meds and follow your progress. I'd also ask him to recommend a good therapist to help you deal with the depression. (Most PMMs do not take private patients)
Please don't just sit there and suffer in silence! There is help, it's just not being offered to you so obviously, you're going to have to go get it yourself.
Call him. Tell him you need help.
I wish you the best and know that we're always here.
Hang in there, you WILL get this sorted out.
Everyone's withdrawal is their own -- for some it's quick and easy, for some in the middle, for some it's endless. For most, it's about two weeks, so that's what it'll probably be for you. But if it's not endurable, the recommended course is to go back on the med at the last dose at which you felt fine and taper more slowly.