Nervousness and fear

[pittfan17]

Im so scared around trouble. ima good sized guy. have ben up to around 190 pounds b4. very strong. and have ben in a physical confrontation with a much bigger and guy and won easily. however i was very intimidated. he hit me first and i sort of blacked out and won the battle. but for some reason im so afraid of a fight or disagreement. not that i wanna fight but it would be nice to atleast have the nerve to speak up or do what i have to to keep from getting stepped on by other people.i get nervous and shakey just thinkn that sumone is gonna try to fight me. what could my problem be? and how can i fix it.

[pittfan17]

THANKS+AGAIN

[nlr_tiff]

You are most welcome! :) Let us know the fabulous progress that you're making.

[pittfan17]

Yeah that makes sense. thank u 4 helping

[pittfan17]

Yeah that makes sense. thank u 4 helping

[nlr_tiff]

It takes time a practice to handle disagreements without feeling overly emotional. I have this problem too. For me, discovering what my boundaries are and then constantly practicing enforcing them in the most effective but kind way works. I still can't handle situtaions well sometimes, but when I know I'm going to lose it, I walk away or don't answer the phone for awhile. Give myself a cool down period, sometimes that cooling down period can be a few days even.

I hope this helps. Hugs-Bradian

[pittfan17]

This isnt normal fear tho. i get so nervous my heart pounds. i shake. feel like im going into panick. wont even hardly look at people in public for fear theyl start a fight

[PDXKev]

It's only human to be afraid of a fight or disagreement. No problem there.