Anxiety, nervousness, and depression: What should I do?

[PassionFlower09]

I have some relationship issues. Now, I think as a result of those issues and occurances of negativity, I have anxiety and nervousness.  It comes out of the blue sometimes- I just feel as if I have done something wrong and I am in some kind of trouble.  My husband broke a great deal of trust with me. So I am used to hearing lies and untruths. I used to be afraid that he was telling me another lie- I used to feel scared to hear or know that he is lying or having an affair. . Now I just feel anxious, nervous scared, and depressed. I really have to take deep breathes and tell myself to calm down- literally.

Will this pass. Is this normal. I don't want continue to live in such an emotional state.

What should I do?

[PassionFlower09]

Thanks guys,

I do need to take a step back and evaluate.
Thanks for being here for me. It means a lot.

PassionFlower09

[mammo]

I wonder if you have truly overcome what he did to make you not trust him any longer. Try to take a step back and look at all that has happened and determine if you have forgiven him, or just trying to forget and move on.  It sounds like you've been hurt and obviously a trust was broken, and this is serious stuff in a marriage.  It's also traumatic, and when not dealt with properly, or we've tried to just forget and move on it comes back to haunt us in anxiety and/or depression.  I think therapy would help you to sort this all out and get to a better emotional level.  See a psychiatrist and go from there. they are most knowledgable if medication is needed and can refer you to the proper therapist.  You should never have to get "used" to being lied to, it's not acceptable.  This may stem from not only what has happened but that you don't truly feel you can trust him, and are trying to pretend and go on.  You may need marriage counseling to help with this as well.  Start with "you," see someone so you can learn exactly what is going on with you and go from there.  I'm sorry for all you've been thru, I can hear the pain in your words.  There is help, and you're not alone, we're always here for you.  I hope you work thru this and get your life back to where YOU want it.  Take care.

[julie4321]

Hi
It sounds like a really difficult time for you.  Have you considered seeking professional help, perhaps from a trusted doctor, or psychologist?  I have a diagnosis of generalized anxiety disorder and am working on getting better.  What I have learned is that whilst everyone has anxiety, there are times when the worry becomes a problem and there are helpful options for suffers.  I've also set up a blog about the process of getting better, you may be interested to hear my thoughts on what's helped me and the effect of seeing the doctor.  http://generalisedanxietydisorder.wordpress.com/2010/11/25/telling-people-about-generalised-anxiety-disorder/