Storing Urine and Vomit in Bedroom

[bailey86]

I'm not sure if I am posting this in the correct forum but hopefully someone will be able to help me.
My 22 year old sister has been urinating in cups and containers and storing it in her bedroom. This has been happening for years. She also stores vomit in her room and it is only removed when when of us family members cleans the room because the smell has become unbearable.
She used to wet the bed as a child and was bullied at school. She now has a good job (in healthcare!!!) and is outwardly happy but there have been problems in the family.
I have spoken to her about this and she claims she does not know why she does this but doesnt want to go to the doctor. Sometimes she says she does it because she is lazy, or doesnt want to go downstairs to the toilet in case someone shouts at her for making noise but at other times she uses different reasons so I feel like they are excuses and dont know the real reason why she wees in her room. And if its just laziness or fear of getting shouted at, why does she keep the urine in her room for months and months?
I am so sure this is a sign of a deeper problem. She has also cut her arms in the past. Its really hard to speak to her about this because she gets angry and changes the subject.
Please can anyone give me any advice?

[sotiredofitall]

i have the same problem with my 23 year old son. he does nothing at all. but play games. im tired of it.

[sotiredofitall]

my 23 year old son pees in bottles and cups in his room. it does not get cleaned up unless i clean it up. he gets very angry at me when i confront him about it. he yells at me to stop picking on him. i have asked him politely once before when i discovered maybe 25 bottles of urine in bottles under his bed. he does not work. does not help around the house. all he does is play video games. i keep telling him that he needs to get a job to help out he ignores what i say with no reply. im tired of it all. i want him to leave.

[Jodi103111]

I'm sorry to hear that you're dealing with such an issue. First, in my opinion your son is comfortable. Know one is making him accountable for now being an adult. As an adult, bills need to be paid to enjoy the comforts at home. I would give him 1 more warning about helping out around the house or there will be consequences. If he continues to ignore you, I would shut the power off in his room. He wouldn't be able to stay in his room and play games all day. If you feel that my advice is too extreme, take his game from him. Until your son realize he's an adult and have responsibilities he will continue to live off the life line you provide for him. Best wishes and Good Luck. I hope you find a solution to this problem with your son.

[Paxiled]

If you're new to the forum, this thread is 5 years old and I'm sure circumstances have changed.  

[therese83]

Can someone help me.  My son has no goals in life, the Urine storing is going on for years and ears.  I have tried everything i really have.

HE is 2 meters tall . I am alone with four kids.  How can i get him to stop.  I would like if he left my house.  He has no income.

[pleasehelp731]

Baily85 I am hopeful that you have been able to help your sister. DinPlano, My stepson (17years old) stores urine also and continues to do so. The stench becomes overwhelming and he shrugs it off. He too blames, making noise and disturbing people sleeping. He has no problem making all kinds of other noises blasting music, talking very loudly while people are trying to sleep so this is not the real reason he does this. He has been prescribed many medications for ADD/ADHD but refuses to take them, holding them in his mouth and discarding them later. His room is filthy and filled with garbage, old food dirty dishes. All of the stepchildren have filthy garbage filled rooms but that I believe is related to their mother's housekeeping habits. There is the only one who collects and stores his urine. He sets fires, has a violent temper and fails in school. It is a huge concern for us and for him. I would like to be able to seek treatment for him so that he may have some kind of normal life.  He has poor hygiene habits and baths every 4-5 days after he is badgered in to it. He is not aware of how offputting he is those around him. . He also would not flush the toilet and has to be reminded. He always flushes fecal matter, just not urine. It causes a great stress on my marriage because my husband refuses to deal with the behavior. He knows there is a problem but just cannot deal with it leaving me to try to handle it and then being the "bad guy"

I'm wondering if DinPlano's son is using the drugs because he cannot understand why he exhibits these behaviors and this is his way to "escape". If so, it is somewhat encouraging because he recognizes that he has a problem so he may participate in treatment. I'm hoping that you find resolution as well. I'm going to consult with a psychiatrist about this and will post what I find out.

Please all, help us find a solution to this confusing and scary problem

[DinPlano]

Have you made any progress?
My son stores urine, isolates, and abuses prescription medication also.
He's very smart and has a full scholarship for the Fall, but he's been to the emergency room several times in the past month for drug overdose.
I just cleared a bunch of collected bottles out of his room, including cups and bottles that had stored urine.
He also does not like to flush the toilet.

Let us know what you found out...I see this is an old thread.

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[bailey86]

thank you, thats really nice. i printed off the thread back in july to show my sis but i'm not sure if she read it, i'll post her a link and print off a copy and sister you can reply if you like, people are not being nasty at all. otherwise, i'll keep you updated after i see the doctor tomorrow. i hope it goes well.