19, endo, trying to get pregnant!

[JimboTorrence]

Hello, everyone!


I'm 19, married for almost a year, and I have recently been diagnosed with Endo about 6 months ago. My husband and I are young and still newly weds, but ever since I found out about my !wonderful! (sarcasm) diagnoses I've felt pressured to have a child. Well, maybe "pressured" is the wrong word, but I feel like it's a now or never type of deal.


I spoke to my doctor and he actually told me to try to have children within the next 5 years, if not sooner. This has been replaying over and over and over in my mind all the time. He put me on BC, but I had horrible side effects, so I stopped. I have these horrible thoughts of the endo taking over and I will miss out on a child, I've heard of success with endo, but it seems only with the removal of the Endo. Is this true?


I'd like to have children now, my husband is in the Navy and financially it will be a lot better to have a child while he is in the service. The only problem is, he doesn't understand my views...or my personal health. He has it is his mind that I am normal and healthy and I will be fertile until I'm 45, but I'm not normal...or so I think...and from what all of these things doctors have told me. My hubby and I will talk about children and I get upset, I DO NOT want to pressure him into a child, but I'd like to agree. He says he wants children...but way later in life, like 10 years or so...what if I don't have 10 years? What if I wait so long that all hope is gone.


This is really eating me up, everytime I find out a friend or someone I know got pregnant "by accident" I get so upset. Or if I see a young girl who does not seem fit and is pushing her child in a stroller while the baby is half naked and she looks like she is high out of her mind. I don't think my feelings are normal, I almost feel crazy to get so upset when I see this. I suppose I'm just jealous.


In conclusion, I need help and answers, so please, please, please, if you could I would truly appreciate your input.



Thanks. =]

[Faith690]

Hi there!

I feel what you are going through is totally normal!!! As normal as woman can get. What is the woman best at & what makes a woman that God created so special? It is that we have the privilege to bring new life in this world!
And I believe that every woman should be blessed with that chance.

But you are over-reacting-if I may say so. You must realise that your CHANCE IS NOT OVER- yet! And five years is a long time. Believe me your husband will start to understand the predicament you are in(you both are in). You should get pamphlets (All info) from your Gyne and let your husband read. Force him!

My story is so close to yours! I got married at 19 (turned 20 today) Got daignosed with endo exactly 6 months after! Wow that's freaky. exaclty like you.
I went through all the thoughts you are going through. I balled my eyes out with the fear of what I dreaded the most!!! But  I decided I wouldn't settle for anything less than what God wants to give me for my future. Before my Laporoscopy- I prepared my mind & soul for only the best results and still have faith!!!

Please I ask you put your Faith in God and put your unborn Child/ren in His Capable hands & BELEIVE!

iT' the best you can do! Is try to live the best life you possibly can & live positively!

Relax my friend, and first enjoy your next year with your husband and it will hapen when it happens-don't worry he will understand soon. But don't try & force him into a direction he isn't at all ready for YET. Give him a year....

What is your name? Where do you live? & have you been for a Lap..?

[SeriousSam]

Have you had him talk with you and your doctor?

[terclevenger]

Me and my husband had the same issues with our children yes we do have two.  I got pregnant with first one after having been with my husband and no protection for two years.  I did have one miscarriage before that.  When I read your post it is the same exact fight me and my husband had with my second child.  I did have to have a surgery to be able to have him and I was given a choice of getting pregnant in a year or an only child.  We fought I cried, because he did not understand what I saw on the internet.  On how little of a chance we had.  Men have to read stuff and not just listen to the wife.  there are so many sites on the internet that describe in detail endo.  I printed off all the information on the site gave it to him and left him alone with it. I think that is when he realized it was not just the biological clock ticking it wasboth that and so little time.  I hope this helps I know what you are going through.  I have suffered my whole adult life with this granted I am only 28 but some days I feel a lot older.  Have a doctor give a handout or have him come to an appt that also helped my husband.  And it is very normal to be totally peeved about the situation.  I was working at a job where the a women got pregnant and was giving the baby up for adoption, because it was an accident and I was trying to get pregnant again.  Also make it clear to your huband you do not have ten years.  Even after the surgery they said I only had one year of fertility.  It took me still eight months to get pregnant.  I even used ovulation kit.  If you need to vent or talk more about it just let me know, because it is not easy or fair.  And it always helps having somebody who knows the pain, the anxiety, the despair of possible infertility and I wish I had someone to talk to back then.