ungle is dying of cancer

[edith929]

i  really  need  some   help   and  someone  to  talk    to     on  a  a  very  touchy   subject   in  our  family     my  ungle    has  battleling  with  cancer    for  the  past  six  yrs  i  know  that  is  a  long  time       know  it  is  to  the  point     where  he  in  pain  all  the  time     and  he  sleeps  all  the  time        me  and  my  mom  were  over  there  last  week  and  my  aunt  told  him  we  were  here     he  opened  his    eyes  and  held  our  hand     and  then  closed  his  eyes  again       we  hoping  it  wont  take  long      he  is  in  so  much  pain      he  doesnt  eat  anymore      he  only  gets  liquids    i  am  getting  upset   as  im  writting    this  i  really  need  someone  to  talk  to       i  joined  another  forum     last  week  and  still  nobody  is  talking  to  me       in  that  forum            

[mommy52]

Sounds like your aunt is blessed to have family such as you and your mom so close. Remeber you saying you would talk about you dad later. When you are ready, we are here. Good to hear from you. Blessings and prayers. Madlyn

[edith929]

my  aunt  lives  right  down  the  road     from  us   so  we  talk  everyday      this  is  the  first  time  shes  been    alone      everyone  left  saturday    sunday  and  monday       she  still   cries   alot   her  and  my  mom  talk  everyday      this  is  going  to  be  very  hard  on  her  they  were  married  for  42  yrs      me  and  mom  are  there  for  her   but  right  now  shes  very  busy    she  has  to  call  the  car  insuarnce      to  get  his  name  off       everyone   is  asking  her  for  a  death    certificate     now  that  she  has to  change  everything    my  mom   went  through  the  same  thing     when  my  dad   died   in  2001      

[mommy52]

Just wanted to know how you, your aunt and family are doing. Sometimes it is hard to talk about death just afterwards, I understand. Please know and be assured, I think I can speak for all. When you are ready, someone will be here. Do not keep feelings inside. I have been known to sit outside and talk to our dog and tell him just how unfair I thnk things can be at times. My dog listens, I think, and never tells me anything, she just looks at me and listens.Hope this doesn't sound abnormal. What is normal though? Let know how you are.

[mommy52]

That was a great idea with the releasing of the balloons. By releasing the balloons, you are also allowing your uncle to be free also. Free from the pain you described he experienced. Don't know how far you live from your aunt, but I can tell you will be there emotionally for your aunt along with your mother.Check your area for grief support groups. Hospice should be able to tell about some and in many instances they sponsor some. Your uncle may be gone from sight, but you have his memories to cherish your lifetime. Do not think only of the last months, but remember the happy times. This will help you all realize he IS without pain now. Keep posted. Will continue to keep you and your family in prayer. Madlyn

[edith929]

we  were  gone  most  of  the  day  yesterday     the  funeral  was  at  11     there  were  quit  a  few  of  their    friends    that  they  met  that  we  introduced  them  too    after  the  funeral  we  all  went  out  for  lunch     my  aunt  payed  for  everyones  lunch    their  were  about  thirty    there      after  the  lunch  our  family  went    to  there  property    and  let  go  about  thirty   balloons   we  all  wrote  a  message  to  him    and  then  later  we  went  to  my  sisters  house     my  cousin  best   friend    was  with  us  all  day       i  dont  know  what    is  going  to  happen  to  my  aunt   after  everyone  is  gone     me  and  my  mom  will  be  there  for  her      

[mommy52]

Sorry for your loss and pray for strength for you and your family during the times ahead. When you are ready, feel free to talk about your Dad. Holidays are a difficult time for all who are grieving or who have lost someone. When we reach out to comfort another, we are receiving comfort for ourselves also. By reaching out we are offereing a piece of our hearts as others have done to us. Love ya. Keep us posted on how you are doing. Madlyn