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OT I got the dreaded news

Saw the oncologist today. I decided it is time to stop chemo therapy. The cancer keeps growing and I am sick, weak, and hairless. She is referring me to palliative care and hospice. She gives me months. She said to do my bucket list. My husband and I are sad.

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5265383 tn?1483808356
Oh, Alex.  I am so very sorry :'-(.  I am praying for both of you.  Hold tight to each other.
9745005 tn?1410044366
This news breaks my heart, I'm so sorry!  I hope you are proud of the fight you gave and the person you are, truly a gem!!!  Thinking of you and your husband and holding you tight in that space where I say prayers and send strength out to those who need it.  Hoping you can feel it being sent your way!!  Big HUGS!  

Hear hear xx
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I imagine your thoughts and emotions are up and down then steady at times. As the other two comments convey, hold each other tight, and make this time about you and your loved one. Please know the information you share with us here is respected and most cherished. God Speed to you and your family during this time.

Sending BIG O X OX OX OX OX OX OX your way....
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Alex, I'm so sorry. Of all the people here, you've been the largest inspiration for me in how to approach illness and hardships. You have always displayed a grace and balance I can only aspire to.  

I hope your remaining time is good, and filled with much love....

11305938 tn?1417998533
I have been away for months due to sickness. I come back and the first thing I see is this.

You and yours must be devastated and I can't imagine what you are dealing with right now!

You have always been my inspiration and that will never change.

Take this time for love,family,
And when you are feeling up to it, do things that make you happy.

You are in my thoughtsn
Barb xoxo
16827717 tn?1451796896
I dont know you hunny, but you seem to have been a driving force on this forum, and helped many other people to cope with their illness.
There is nothing much i can say to make you feel better, but yes do your bucket list, and just go and enjoy yourself with your husband, and spend every minute and waking moment together, dont waste a second. One of my friends was given a few months, and she stayed with us all for another year.
I am sending prayers for you, to have the strength to get through this big hugs. xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Oh Alex, what a decision to have to make. These latest chemo treatments sounded horrible so I am glad you won't suffer those anymore.

I wish you love and am sending many gentle hugs.  

Sending prayers for you and your husband.

12080135 tn?1453627571
I'm sad for you too Alex. I'm am glad you got to have your European trip and spend some quality time in lovely settings with your husband. I hope the specialists in charge of your palliative care can work on ensuring you're as pain free as possible now.
You have been a constant voice of reason and honesty on this forum and your replies and advice will be a lasting legacy for all those seeking answers and solace.
Sending you much love and hope that you can spend some more precious moments with your loved ones over the months to come. Nx
11079760 tn?1483386130
Alex - I have only been on this site for a few months, but I want you to know what an incredible source of strength and positive role model you have been in that time. I will pray that the palliative care staff can alleviate your pain and allow you to spend whatever time you have comfortably.

You and your husband will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. I know you will manage this next journey the way you have managed the past ones - with grace, positivity, and strength. I am so sad to hear this news....

Sending you hugs across the web,
15288417 tn?1446902183
Alex, I'm so very sorry about what you are dealing with.  
I just feel so sad!
You are an inspirational woman!
Sending you and your husband lots of prayers and hugs.
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Dear Alex, I haven't been on in a long while. I'm so very sad to hear that things are not improving for you. I don't even know what to say except I'm so very sorry. You have been such a pillar of strength here to all of us who felt like we were crumbling for one reason or another. I want to thank you for that Alex, and have always been comforted by your words. I will pray for you and your husband, and sending many gentle HUGS.
Regards, barb
382218 tn?1341181487
I'm so sorry to hear this, Alex. xo
667078 tn?1316000935
Thanks for your kindness and support. I had a good day I went out and groomed Clara. No one is riding her so she is shaggy and dirty. I hope to start riding her next week. She is just waiting there for me. I am lucky to have good friends with horses.

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I am praying for you..... I am so sorry to hear this.  God and the Angels be with you.....
Avatar universal
Hi Alex,

I have only just joined this forum but I wanted to say that I wish you happiness and peace
1382889 tn?1505071193
I'm so very sorry to hear this news.  It's been a while since I was on this site and this literally was the first post I saw when I entered the site. You are an incredible woman, a fighter, an inspiration. You are loved greatly.
1088527 tn?1425313375
Alex I am so sorry for the bad news but I know your not gonna go down without a fight. Enjoy riding Clara and take care of yourself
Prayers for you. I don't know what to say. May God bless you and your family.
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