Tmi.......... pls help my bf keeps watching porn

[mrsohara]

hey ladys !!
my bf aint to good at showing affection and i keep finding him having been watching porn on his moble instead of spending time in bed with me

the searches are of compleate opposit of me
is it becoz i am gaining weight with pregnancy?
dont i do it for him anymore?
i dont no how to react as each time i have found this he says he loves me and dont no why he do it.......

i need real womens opinion as i dont no what to do next
my gut tells me the realtionship must be breaking down
and i feel like he must not love or care for how i feel

[Lanny_Licorice]

I personally let my boyfriend watch porn. Ever since I've gotten pregnant I have not been In no mood of having sex. His needs need to be satisfied and that's the way he goes to get himself goin' and bang, his needs are complete and I'm not bein' pestered lol. He still cuddles on me and WILL ask me If I want to before doin' that though. But like someone said, It's not our view what the matter Is, It's how you feel and view about the matter. If It Is a very big concern, you will need to let him know It's not okay and let him know how you feel that It hurts you that he does that and showing porn more attention than you when It should be the other way around. You will need to express your feelings more and be up front to him and make him listen to you and let him or tell him to express his view to exactly why he Is doin' that and showing you less attention 'cuz "idk why I do It" Is not a good enough excuse.

[tay_lily_n_bump]

it doesnt really matter what anyone elses view on the matter is. if you dont like it tell him and if he doesnt have the respect for you to stop then your relationship has bigger problems. you should be feeling loved and cherished right now and have every right to feel upset by this behaviour. hope things improve. wishing u a healthy and happy pregnancy

[tkenna]

Im sorry you feel this way!! :( my fiance watches porn. at first it used to really bother me but we talked about it. i told him how i felt, but didnt freak out on him about it. He said its because he wants to orgasm but hes too tired to have sex which i COMPLETELY understand. also, hes not out having sex with any other woman. so id rather let him do it himself then have someone else do it. The only thing i do not like and will not tolerate is him watching porn while we are having sex.

[ShellyLette]

Well my boyfriend watches porn sometimes and it don't bother me, he knows I watch porn. I've looked at his history before and he likes different fantasies that he knows I won't do like cheerleaders lol, I am so not dressing up like a cheerleader. But he knows this cuz we talk about what we like, were a very sexual couple. But that's just us. I mean I can't really tell you why I watch it, its just something I like to do every now and again. I don't think he will change even it bothers you, it'll just be.a more secretive thing the more you bring it up hell go that extra mile to clean up his mess. That's only my opinion though. You should question if you want to be more open with it, cuz honestly if you are then he might not wanna do it anymore or quite as often cuz its not such a bad thing anymore. People like to go against the rules sometimes if I'm making sense. As far as him not giving you enough attention, make him or leave him. Im not sure if the porn is the problem or if its your relationship in general.

[ashkevin13]

Personally i wouldnt leave him over this, but per the comment regarding it is not as easy as everyone thinks to just watch.it with him. I agree. If he is watching it almost daily. He might be addicted. There are diseases like that out there. Have u tried getting him in the mood, like seducing. My husband never knows when i am in  the mood. It sounds like ur bf is always in the mood. Lol it might be worth a shot. And with our hormones. He might not say anything about ur looks or pregnancy because he is nervous it might come out wrong or with a certain tone that u might find upsetting. My husband doesnt usually say nice things or compliments me. But he doesnt say mean things.

[MrsKeener]

I'm opposite on that subject. I'm the one who loves porn. my husband doesn't watch it much. he will watch it with me though. we are both very comfortable in that field. when i was married the first time it was a different story. my ex watched porn a lot and even had pics of naked women on his phone. i used to cry over it. took me several years to accept it though.