Tmi.......... pls help my bf keeps watching porn

[mrsohara]

hey ladys !!
my bf aint to good at showing affection and i keep finding him having been watching porn on his moble instead of spending time in bed with me

the searches are of compleate opposit of me
is it becoz i am gaining weight with pregnancy?
dont i do it for him anymore?
i dont no how to react as each time i have found this he says he loves me and dont no why he do it.......

i need real womens opinion as i dont no what to do next
my gut tells me the realtionship must be breaking down
and i feel like he must not love or care for how i feel

[ftm2013]

My hubby watches porn more so since me being pregnant he is afraid to hurt the baby or that it'll put me into labor to early not to mention my sex drive is way down.......but we went together and picked out porn that we BOTH agree on. Almost every woman I talk to admits her husband or boyfriend watches porn. Try talking to him and see if there is anything you can do? Ask him if he's happy. I think if you were reassured about the relationship then the porn wouldn't be that big of a deal. Don't make him feel bad for watching it but make him understand that there are things you need to!

[isha69]

I agree with you, my current boyfriend has had a lot of problems with pornography and going to females online or that he met somehow for
his sexual pleasure. I feel like I'm not good enough to him, and honestly get treated like crap most of the time.
Tell him how you feel and that it's a really big problem. If he doesn't care, boot him out.

[Pansie]

I dont agree to bf watching porn and tbh my man dont do it,  I have had this argument so many times that ppl saying its just a man thing well no it aint I mean what b4 tv was invented they wouldnt then!  But if u know ur bf does it and ur ok with it then fine each to there own. But at the end of the day I hope u sort it out do what ur heart tells u or ur mind :-)

[mrsohara]

we have spoke about this everytime i found out and he just clams up and says nothing and he has never been bothered about hurting baby when we do have sex so its not down to that
and we have watched it before but never much and havnt tried sexy under wear as tbh hes more of a straihht to the pont and bang bang am done sorta guy the more i think about it the passion has gone its always all about him and hes done am left dometimes feeling used while he falls asleep

[mandi41389]

Def watching with him if he lets u will teach u tons n make u more comfortable n explorative of eachother. If u have gained alot he may feel scared to say something wrong or that if he makes a wrong look at u that u will b upset. Its hard being attractive especially at the end but maybe bigger is not what he likes. He prolly wishes u were back to normal. Im sure when u have the baby everything will b fine

[mrsnelson2010]

have you talked to him and told him how you feel? Or gone to purchase maternity lingerie and tried that?

Maybe he is just afraid of hurting baby? Just talk with him..tell him how it makes you feel and maybe offer to watch it with him.