sick of the depression

[babymama1985]

So ive posted on here before with the problems of my babydaddy but it seems to just get worse. It hurts still being in love with the man but now hes dating the woman he cheated on me with. Im 23 weeks for it seems that no matter what i do...how happy i try to be its just one blpw after another. I have been diagnosed with clinical depression a long time ago and was on prozac before i got pregnant but went off them abruptly when i found out i was pregnant. Hes pretty much nonexistent but the times we would talk or when he would come to the 3appts that he was actually at i would ask if he was seeing, dating, talking to anyone else .....it was always no no no....so i foubd he has been lying to me for who knows how long and i am just so torn up about how he doesn't care how he efdects me and in turn effects the baby. I dont understand men like that. How can u say u care about your son when all u do is prove everyday that

[Its_A_Boy2012]

Ima keep this short. At least he went to doctors appointment my babydaddy never came to any and I offer every time I go! TRUST ME YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE DEALING WITH A NO GOOD MAN!! Instead of worrying bout him you need to be concerned about your child. Easier said then done I know but you have to do it. Maybe when the baby come he will grow up and all will be good but then again maybe he won't and you have to do it alone. YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST TO DO IT AND I PROMISE YOU WON'T BE THE LAST. Stay strong for your child.

[AnnieBrooke]

Raevicious, have the DNA test done in a certified fashion where he has to come to an official office and swab while a nurse watches, or a lawyer.  Don't just send him a kit, the jerk is likely to have his buddy do the swab.  Then send the test results and the demand for child support in the same envelope.

[momabear86]

Annie basically covered everything. Maybe he didn't tell you because he knew it would upset you.
The relationship is over and you need to understand that but it doesn't stop you being a mom and him being a dad

[AnnieBrooke]

Sorry, my post went up before I saw your addition to your post.  All I can say is don't give away your power to him.  You say he "puts you through an emotional rollercoaster," but an emotional rollercoaster takes two people, one to do something the other reacts to, and the other to react.  Sometimes the first person doesn't do anything besides act sort of friendly sometimes and disinterested other times, and the other is so eager for a realtionship that she feels it as a roller coaster even when it wasn't intended that way.  

It sounds like the guy is showing by his actions that he is entirely done with a romantic relationship with you.  Maybe he'll step up and be a dad, when the time comes, but he's not raising his hand to step up and be a boyfriend ever again.  If you let this information sink in, it will make life easier for you, because you won't be torturing yourself with false hopes and leaping to every remark he makes like a trout to a fly.

Good luck, it's a rough position to be in.

[Raevicious]

Honestly? I would just keep him in the dark about everything from now on until he shows real interest. Does this other girl know he's about to be a father? How is she ok with the fact that he has left a woman pregnant? If I were in your spot, I wouldn't let him in the delivery room, I wouldn't even let him know when youre in labor, because if he's acting like this, why let him keep his spot as the dad? Ignore his calls, because it sounds like he's just throwing you deeper into depression. My baby daddy started ignoring me and blocking my calls once I told him the test came out positive and the last thing I heard is 'I want a blood test when that thing comes out' so he is getting his test, but that's the only time he will ever hear from me. You can do this, talk to your family <3

[Factorymomma]

I was on prozac from weeks 13-26 of my pregnancy.  It helped immensely.