:( Hmm.

[Tasyi]

So I'm 25 weeks, my fiancé still does not have a job, pushes me around, cusses & yells at me, smokes allllll the time, PLUS had his "best friend" & his gf move in.. & he's always with them & does stupid ****, His best friends girlfriend sits there & smokes with **** too. He always tells me he'll quit doing this & quit doing that, but doesnt. I'm so tired of this.. I feel taken advantage of. Plus his best friend is really abusive to his gf too, totally insecure, doesnt let her leave, or anything. I'm just fed up.. & I'm not sure what I can do about it.. Im only 16 & my fiance is 18, we are getting married before the baby & I'm scared that once we tie the knot that he'll become worse.. How do I deal with this nonsense? Please no bashing!

[TTinKKerBBell]

I've read Your other posts.  January 31, 2014 You said You want to leave because of His smoking weed
"but that You live at HIS house"  - Your words, not mine.  

Here twice You say it's Your house.
You began this post saying He pushes You around and then an hour later You said He doesn't push You around any more.
You say the police don't help You but if You left the police would not force You to return to be "tortured".

Everyone has tried to be helpful but it seems You have an excuse why You can't take any piece of advice given You.

This causes me to question many of Your statements - but none the less,

I repeat
You and all others will be modeling these behaviors to Your Child.  Percentage is good, very, very good that She will tolerate abuse or BE the abuser.  The best thing You can do is take Your baby out of that environment.  If they "torture" young people in the smoke house??!!  another good reason to remove Your Baby from the premises.

[Nighthawk61]

Do you mind me asking, is there a way to get birth control at your age?

[Tasyi]

Thankyou guys.

[abbb01]

I would say that there must be laws there but I know laws are flawed and its sadly ify if police will do the right thing or not I would ask if u own ur house if u could quietly sell it or scrape together as much money as u can and when u have enough move to a different state to start over. Honestly it doesn't sound like u have anything to keep u there except ur consenting to marriage out of fear of further abuse

[ftmlove]

My bfs family live in Yakima. Me in Spokane. I'm native and I have lots of Canadian natives as friends. And Yakima is already a ****** place to live havnt been to that rez but from other rezs I've been to no matter what treat children that way, I know a lot of men are abusivr and lazy and thoughtless but there are resourses so use them! Get outta there its Yakima just go to dshs and find out what to do or a.  women's help center. Get out of that corrupted tribe

[Chima7]

Wow, you've really opened my eyes to some things about a native American culture that I didn't know before. I always thought, in general, they were really wise and mother earth nature loving folks who looked to their ancestors for guidance and knowledge for how to live their lives. But this picture you've painted of how your people behave in situations like these is very negative, violent, and not at all what I imagined. I'm actually pretty shocked and kind of disappointed.

I'm sorry that you find yourself in this position. You're 16? Do you know what I was doing at 16? I had just got my license and I was driving around enjoying my friends and having fun. It was pretty awesome because at that age I had very few responsibilities. I got my first job at a pizza place but it was like 12 hours a week, no big deal. It was great. I look back at that time of my life with a good feeling. Life was good back then. But for you? Not so much.

Here's the bottom line. Your child is going to grow up in a house with parents who fight all the time. The cycle of abuse will continue and your child will grow up thinking that's normal and he or she will continue perpetuating that in all of their relationships. It's not too late since they're not born yet. You still have time to change the course of your child's life to a positive direction. It sounds like your family is no help because of their barbaric customs but for the sake of your child's future, you have to find some way to get yourself away from all of this toxic abuse and negativity. There must be someplace safe you can go where you can raise your child in a positive and loving environment. Someone in your life loves you enough to help you get to safety before it's too late. I think it's imperative for you to confide in that person and make your escape before the baby is born. You said your dad killed your first baby, what's to stop him or one of your other crazy tribe members from doing it again? There's apparently no law against it among them abusing their own people. It's not a healthy environment for you or for your baby. I hope that you will find someone to help you. I really really do because you're really in the worst possible situation for your position.